做女人不要失去自我

Signs That You Have Fallen Out of Love

2010-10-19T16:15:00.001+08:00

1. Losing interest in the other person is an obvious sign of love lost in relationship. You no longer have that "mushy" feeling for that person inside anymore. You have lost the sparkle in your eyes and feeling of warmth for the other person.

2. You are no longer worried about what the other is doing and do not miss them or think of them even if they are gone for a long time. You are not considerate of their feelings as much as you used to be like earlier when you used to put other people things before yours. You sort of become indifferent.

3. You were once excited to see them and anxiously waited to see them. But now you look for excuses to keep away from them. You are not in a rush to see them anymore. You rather wish they take longer to get home if you are married or in a living relationship. You keep a distance from them and try to meet new people or spend time in the company of your friends.

4. Marriage thrives on intimacy and closeness with one another and when love is lost physical or emotional intimacy would be gone too or at least reduced to a considerable extent. You do not enjoy the company of the other person any more. You also withdraw in general with regards to conversation and spending time together as a couple. Some times you may feel depressed or stress out.

5. You don’t answer their calls and don’t call them often as earlier or send text messages to them. You look for excuses for not taking call or for cutting the call short.

6. There was a time you took delight in showing your love, acceptance and appreciation for your partner by giving gifts. You always remember days important to them but now you just don’t bother or remember. You no longer feel telling your partner that you love him or her.

7. You may also say hurtful things or pickup fights for even small things. You easily find fault with your partner and not willing to compromise anymore. You get defensive, selfish and egotistical.

当爱情在消逝...

2010-10-19T13:40:00.000+08:00

当爱情即将消逝时，我们能做什么?

聊天的话语变得越来越少，有一句没一句的说着．

是我变了？你变了？还是世界变了？其实，除了气候之外谁都没变．

不管怎么样，距离都是会或多或少影响两个人．

所面对的事情不同，对爱情的态度自然也会不同．

心情真的很复杂．

女人应该活出精彩

2010-10-04T14:24:00.002+08:00

女人不应仅仅属于家庭，她首先要属于自己，然后是家庭，是社会。
这样，女人的生活才是最完美的。

家庭绝不应该是一个女人的终点，
应当是女人的加油站。

什么也没有比一个女人关注自己的灵魂更为重要的事情。
只有灵魂的安宁、平和才能感受到幸福到来的滋味。
只有灵魂的充实和丰满才能发现生活的美丽和生命的宝贵。
关注灵魂应当是女人一生比关注容颜更为重要的事情。

女人啊，与其抱怨生活，不如自己先活出精彩来。

女人要精致地活着

2010-10-02T11:10:00.000+08:00

“人生最大的幸福，是发现自己爱的人正好也爱着自己。喜欢一个人，会卑微到尘埃里，然后开出花来”张爱玲道。

自古红颜多薄命。天若有情天亦老，更何况弱女子？思君让人老！今春，香肌瘦几分，带宽三寸。

纵观古今，女人总逃不过“情”字。无论伟大或卑微。女人是小鸟，永远逃不出男人编制的情网。任自己枯萎，凋谢，却换不回男人的一次回眸，一滴眼泪。

女人只是男人路上的驿站，男人一生要经过多少驿站，他们自己也不知道。总在不但地寻觅，新的驿站总在前方。像林徽因这么幸福的女人几乎史无前例。遇上了金岳霖，原为她苦守一生。还有徐志摩为她留下的千古绝唱：再别康桥！

张爱玲，一代才女，不顾政治和他有妻室，投入他的怀抱，为他提供才及财，最终被弃，孤寂地死去。这方面应学张幼仪，被抛弃时，不卑不亢，自强不息，虽没赢得故人的爱，但赢得了他的尊重。

女人应像她一样地精致地活着。

首先，注重自己的形象。不论美不美，要干净利索。一举手，一投足，要优雅得体。

有自己可受益一生的爱好，精神的琴棋书画；体力的，跳舞，乒乓等。可在无聊时，killtime!

有自己的为之奋斗的梦想！孜孜不倦，乐此不疲！偶尔有小小的成就让自己惊喜！无论他人如何认为你的梦想是多么的荒诞无稽，但它总是你平淡生活得精神支柱。

有闺中密友，抑郁时可窃窃私语，购物，咖啡，流泪，嬉笑，怒骂!

有自己的蓝颜知己，与爱情无关！与身体无关！鼓励你不但地进取，无聊时谈天说地。

有自己喜爱的职业，可养活自己，不能依赖你的男人。如果有一天他毅然离去，你的世界不至于暗无天日。

女人要爱惜自己的身体。男人无论咋伪装，最后露出是性的狰狞的面孔。女人不能靠下半身去拴住一个男人的心，需要的是智慧和才华。与其等着男人来爱自己，还不如提高自己，开辟自己的天地。好男人太少，是千百年淘不来的。其实幸福可能就在身边。

要有自己的孩子。未做母亲的女人不是一个完整的女人。为孩子付出的同时就是收获，耐心，爱心，奉献。

女人要精致地活着，为别人，更为自己！

女人要学会好好爱自己

2010-10-02T11:05:00.000+08:00

爱情太过沉重`````

爱情太让人伤神````

学会轻松吧```学会好好爱自己```不管别人说什么```爱情并不可以让我屈服

学会开心吧```学会好好爱自己```不要让任何事扰乱美好的生命``学会珍惜自己```因为我知道这样才会减少自己的伤痛``

学会对一切无所谓````学会好好的爱自己```我要把青春和纯真撰在自己的手里```不要让它在伤痛中流逝`````

及其没有安全感的我``本以为找到了爱情就是找到了自己的归宿```一个自己在怕在累有个可以依靠与关怀的避所```或许我错了``我一直都是错的````我只是一直在幸福的边缘上徘徊`````爱情我成受不起```

难过的夜我抚摩着自己的伤痛`````自己是那么的凄凉与孤单````心已经死了在那年夏天我的纯真我的爱````现在我的爱对我来说只一种负累````我在疼痛的路口左右徘徊````

这么久我终于明白我一直在寻找自己的安全```渴望无尽的关怀与爱``可是或许我错了````这么多年我一直虔诚的寻找无尽的爱我成了它忠实的奴隶`````

什么都可以全力以赴```现在我知道惟独爱不能``````

世上没有什么东西是让你平白无辜得到的`````就连爱也需要你一点点经营````男人是多么贪婪的动物``他总是不断的要求从女人那里索取爱``` 关怀```忍让```为他提供一切他所需要的````女人到最后付出的越来越多```自己以为可以从中获取那么些许的信任与安全感``最后到无法抽身 ```如果我说女人成了寻找爱的奴隶,那么这么一来爱就让她死心踏地成为男人的奴隶```

现在得知如过自己不好好的爱自己````这世上还有谁会来爱呢````

最能给自己安全感的人就只有自己````不去理会那不重要的伤感`````对一切都无所谓````

她变得不再开心

2010-10-02T10:12:00.001+08:00

有人说做女人不容易，那时我对这还没有太多想法
直到最近，才真正了解做女人真的很难，尤其在有了自己的家庭孩子以后

女人的一生都奉献给她的家庭
在做任何事情前第一个想到的不是她自己，是她的丈夫孩子
没有了自己的社交圈子，没有了自己的私人时间
有的只是做也做不完的家务，有的只是没完没了的责任
照顾丈夫，照顾孩子的责任
现代女性更要出外工作分担家用
所承受的压力是无法想象的
就因为男人自私的想法
他们不能理解为何太太会发脾气
他们不能理解为何太太喜欢无理取闹

可恨的是
身边的男人却一点也不了解自己的付出
只认为自己赚钱回来就很了不起
只认为自己在外头工作已经很压力
却往往没有想到
妻子承受的压力比他更多

其实
女人要的
也只是另一半对自己的关怀，真挚的关心问候
不是区情假意或敷衍的回应

弄到最后
女人变得面目全非
女人开始怀疑她为何要这样糟蹋自己，开始怀疑当初的决定是否正确
开始渐渐地失去了昔日的幸福模样
她变得不再开心
每天只是空有虚壳的生活着，只是忙碌的为家庭付出着

那，请问
结婚的意义又在哪啊？

(载自threeSIXTYº miracles)

女人的一生可以有两段婚姻？

2010-09-30T15:31:00.000+08:00

有人说，女人的一生至少应该有两次婚姻，一次是为了家庭，一次是为了自己的生活。

我不知道这样的理论来自何方，也不知道这样的观点有什么依据？可认真仔细的揣摩后似乎感到很有些道理，绝大多数的女人结婚后都会失去自我，为家人而操心，为老公而活，为孩子而活。

女人是感情动物，现实生活中很容易受到自己情感的支配而忘乎所以，为了寻找真爱可以和心爱的男人私奔，为了自己的爱情可以毅然决然地离开自己的父母家庭，为了心中的那份感觉可以放弃舒适优越的生活环境去追求那种旁人看来很虚无飘渺的精神享受，去追寻内心深处说不清道不明的那种渴望。

毕竟，在每一位感性的女人心目中都有着一位白马王子，她们希望自己有婚姻能够上演浪漫的一幕，有的女人为了自己心目中的白马王子可以穷尽一生去追求，甚至是可以追求到心力交瘁，人老珠黄。

然而，绝大多数的女人一生中只守着一次婚姻，因此，很少有女人感到自己的一生活得很精彩。因为，在仅有的这一段婚姻选择时，女人往往只注重自己对异性的那种感觉，那种很表面很物质的东西，那种很少考虑到独立自我的婚姻。因此，女人的第一次婚姻通常都是为别人而活，把老公和孩子放大到极致而把自己忽略到细微，而且，越是传统的女人越是知性，越是把婚姻看成自己生命的责任，越是注重情感和精神层面的关爱，越是心思细腻到身边的一草一木，而等到孩子长大了才突然蓦然发觉自己的一生其实都深陷在婚姻繁琐的事务之中，忽略了自己的精神生活，忽略了女人应有的情感享受，忽略了精彩纷呈的外部世界，而这时的女人往往已经没有了激情也没有心情去追求属于自己的生活了，只得把为自己活一把的理想深藏于心了。

而假如女人可以有第二段婚姻，则可以有机会去纠正自己在第一段婚姻中所犯下的过失，绝对可以有机会找回真实生活中的自我，绝对可以规划自己精彩纷呈的生活，就算是跟着感觉走也可以是不盲目。可以在感性爆发的同时，可以执着勇敢地追求婚姻以外的幸福生活。当然，这取决于女人如何看待自己的第二段婚姻，假如植入了开放的思想观念，当女人得不到来自丈夫方面细腻和更多情感的关怀时，女人完全可以用自己的情感来寻找、充实、实践日常生活中的刺激，甚至于可以有分寸的渴望来自婚姻以外的那种慰藉。

在性的方面或许也可以成为女人选择二次婚姻的重要诱因。爱情犹如像水泥，性爱则是像钢筋，和一起叫混凝土，两者缺一不可。哪个女人不希望和一个身材玉树临风、年轻英俊的才情男子做？再看看身边的这位，两眼昏花加身材臃肿加不苟言笑，一个姿势用10年。如果再不幸碰上阳痿早泄什么的，后果更严重。现在，外界的诱惑很多，老板时刻在向着自己招手，如果仅仅是为了自己的生活了，那么，抱着享乐主义的态度逢场作戏就可以了。她们需要来自异性的宠爱，那种肌肤相亲的感觉既使是有了性的关系，也不代表就一定会以心相许，来自婚外的爱抚，有可能只是女人为了将家庭更好的维持下去的一条出路。

由此可见，女人一辈子起码可以结二次婚，第一次是为了老公和孩子，毕竟家庭在女人心目中的地位至高无上，尤其是孩子身心幸福的重要性，有时比她本人的性命还要重要。第二次婚姻应该为了自己，可以不再重复婚姻中的错误，在尽情享受性爱喜悦的同时，还可以让自己活得更加的自我，更加的精彩纷呈。

只是获得了第二次婚姻的女人要注意，千万别把自己的第二段婚姻又演变成了对第一段失败婚姻的复制品。

(载自南方报网)

做女人不要失去自我

2010-09-30T14:19:00.000+08:00

一个女人，失掉了自我，便是失却了人生的根本，其后续的命运必然悲惨。这种活生生的例子，比比皆是，触目惊心。其实，这似乎也无关男女，每一个生存在现实社会的人，都应切记，当你爱别人，为别人奉献一切时，当留下一个“自我”的根本，至少使自己保有独立生存于社会的能力，从而保有自己一生的幸福。但因为历来女性更富爱心，更多为家庭无私奉献，更善于牺牲自己，也就更容易走进失去自我的陷阱。而且，在日益男权化的社会竞争现实面前，女性进一步沦为弱势群体，从而加剧了丧失独立性，失去自我的可能性。

台湾作家柏杨在《爱情如战争》中有一段话：“一个有头脑的太太，永不会忘记修饰自己。不知道修饰自己的女人乃一头伟大的母猪，它以为它连老命都奉献啦，应该被爱了吧，人类却是爱猫者有之，爱狗者有之，爱金丝雀、画眉者有之，而爱母猪的似乎不大多也。” 初读之，有振聋发聩之感触，伴着百感交集，热泪迸发之酸楚，当下里，深切感激柏杨老人家对普天下劳苦妇女一番真诚至极、痛心疾首的警示，感觉实乃醒世恒言也，由此，加倍地敬佩这位勇敢而伟大的作家。

早年读过梁晓声的《假若我是女人》留下深刻印象。他说：“假若我是一个寻常的女人，我将一再地提醒和告诫自己——绝不用全部的心思去爱任何一个男人。用三分之一的心思就不算负情于他们了。另外三分之一的心思，去爱世界和生活本身。用最后的三分之一心思爱自己。不自爱的人无自尊可言。唯爱自己的人，才能获得别人的真爱。”八年前，我初读这段话，感触良久。大名鼎鼎的作家梁晓声，他在文学界的成就和地位，我不敢妄言，他的小说《今夜有暴风雪》、《雪城》，我并没有读过，仅仅因为这段话，我便把他奉若神明。在我的心目中，他是一个真正伟大的男人。因为，首先他是一个不自私自利的男人，其二他是一个心地善良、公平公正的男人，其三他是一个切身地体恤女性的有良知的男人，由此，我衷心地感谢他，尊敬他，赞美他，并希望有朝一日能够见到他，亲口告知他，一个普通女性对他的敬意和感谢。

近读丁玲的《三八节有感》，文章写于1942年的战争年代，可能因为作家自身是女人的缘故吧，所以更深切地了解和懂得女人的弱点和痛苦，文中所言句句中肯实在，感人至深，对女同胞可谓谆谆教诲，体恤到骨子里，细细读来，体贴、关怀之情溢于字里行间，有出自肺腑进入肺腑之刻骨铭心感，不愧为一代伟大的女性领袖。她说：“世界上从没有无能的人有资格去获取一切，所以女人要取得平等，得首先强己。”忠告女性要自强、要自立。

我不违言，“爱”是女人一生生活的主题。女人需要“爱”，需要爱别人，需要被人爱。这是其母性、妻性、女儿性的本能所决定的。但奉劝所有的女性，在爱子女、爱丈夫、爱父母、爱家庭的同时，不能牺牲自我，要自私一点地去“爱”别人。人必须先保有自我，才能保有获得别人爱的资格，当你为了别人而把自己牺牲的面目全非、一文不值的时候，你就再无资格去爱别人。因为你爱的人已经把你抛弃了。

说到底，女人需要自尊、自爱、自强、自立，只有这样，才能有明确的生活目标、有属于自己的人生梦想，才能拥有自我的人生价值，才能拥有一生的平安和幸福。

(载自红袖添香)

Female Heart Attacks Symptoms

2010-08-23T10:03:00.000+08:00

She said she didn't feel well and had a back ache and was going to lay down on the bed with the heating pad. A while later her husband went to check on her and she was not breathing. They were not able to revive her. This is something we women should definitely take seriously.

I was aware that female heart attacks are different, but this is the best description I've ever read .........Women and heart attacks (Myocardial infarction).

Did you know that women rarely have the samedramatic symptoms that men have when experiencing heart attack...you know, the sudden stabbing pain in the chest, the cold sweat, grabbing the chest & dropping to the floor that we see in the movies? Here is the story of one woman's experience with a heart attack.

I had a completely unexpected heart attack at about 10:30 pm with NO prior exertion, NO prior emotional trauma that one would suspect might have brought it on.

I was sitting all snugly &warm on a cold evening, with my purring cat in my lap, reading an interesting story my friend had sent me, and actually thinking, 'A-A-h, this is the life, all cozy and warm in my soft, cushy Lazy Boy with my feet propped up.'

A moment later, I felt that awful sensation of indigestion, when you've been in a hurry and grabbed a bite of sandwich and washed it down with a dash of water, and that hurried bite seems to feel like you've swallowed a golf ball going down the esophagus in slow motion and it is most uncomfortable. You realize you shouldn't have gulped it down so fast and needed to chew it more thoroughly and this time drink a glass of water to hasten its progress down to the stomach.

This was my initial sensation--- the only trouble was that I hadn't taken a bite of anything since about 5:00 p.m.

After that had seemed to subside, the next sensation was like little squeezing motions that seemed to be racing up my SPINE (hind-sight, it was probably my aorta spasmming), gaining speed as they continued racing up and under my sternum (breast bone, where one presses rhythmically when administering CPR). This fascinating process continued on into my throat and branched out into both jaws.

AHA!! NOW I stopped puzzling about what was happening--we all have read and/or heard about pain in the jaws being one of the signals of an MI happening, haven't we? I said aloud to myself and the cat, 'Dear God, I think I'm having a heart attack!' I lowered the foot rest, dumping the cat from my lap, started to take a step and fell on the floor instead.

I thought to myself 'If this is a heart attack, I shouldn't be walking into the next room where the phone is or anywhere else......but, on the other hand, if I don't, nobody will know that I need help, and if I wait any longer I may not be able to get up in moment'

I pulled myself up in the arms of the chair, walked slowly into the next room and dialed the Paramedics.. . I told the lady who answered that I thought I was having a heart attack due to the pressure building under the sternum and radiating into my jaws. I didn't feel hysterical or afraid, just stating the facts....

She said she was sending the Paramedics over immediately, asked if the front door was near to me, and if so, to unbolt the door and then lie down on the floor where they could see me when they came in.

I then lay down on the floor as instructed and lost consciousness, as I don't remember the medics coming in, their examination, lifting me onto a gurney or getting me into their ambulance, or hearing the call they made to St.

Jude ER on the way, but I did briefly awaken when we arrived and saw that the Cardiologist was already there in his surgical blues and cap, helping the medics pull my stretcher out of the ambulance.

He was bending over me asking questions (probably something lie 'Have you taken any medications? ') but I couldn't make my mind interpret what he was saying, or form an answer, and nodded off again, not waking up until the Cardiologist and partner had already threaded the teeny angiogram balloon up my femoral artery into the aorta and into m y heart where they installed 2 side by side stents to hold open my right coronary artery.

I know it sounds like all my thinking and actions at home must have taken at least 20-30 minutes before calling the Paramedics, but actually it took perhaps 4-5 minutes before the call, and both the fire station and St. Jude are only minutes away from my home, and my Cardiologist was already to go to the OR in his scrubs and get going on restarting my heart (which had stopped somewhere between my arrival and the procedure) and installing the stents.

Why have I written all of this to you with so much detail? Because I want all of you who are so important in my life to know what learned first hand:

1. Be aware that something very different is happening in your body not the usual men's symptoms, but inexplicable things happening (until my sternum and jaws got into the act ). It is said that many more women than men die of their first (and last) MI because they didn't know they were having one, and commonly mistake it as indigestion, take some Maalox or other anti-heartburn preparation, and go to bed, hoping they'll feel better in the morning when they wake up....which doesn't happen. My female friends, your symptoms might not be exactly like mine, so I advise you to call the Paramedics if ANYTHING is unpleasantly happening that you've not felt before. It is better to have a 'false alarm' visitation than to risk your life guessing what it might be!

2. Note that I said 'Call the Paramedics' (911)! Ladies, TIME IS OF THE ESSENCE! Do NOT try to drive yourself to the ER--you're a hazard to others on the road, and so is your panicked husband who will be speeding and looking anxiously at what's happening with you instead of the road. Do NOT call your doctor--he doesn't know where you live and if it's at night you won't reach him anyway, and if it's daytime, his assistants (or answering service) will tell you to call the Paramedics. He doesn't carry the equipment in his car that you need to be saved! The Paramedics do, principally OXYGEN that you need ASAP. Your Dr. will be notified later.

3. Don't assume it couldn't be a heart attack because you have a normal cholesterol count. Research has discovered that a cholesterol elevated reading is rarely the cause of an MI (unless it's unbelievably high, and/or accompanied by high blood pressure.) MI's are usually caused by long-term stress and inflammation in the body, which dumps all sorts of deadly hormones into your system to sludge things up in there. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep.

Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know, the better chance we could survive.

Knowing Cancer and How To Fight It

2010-08-18T09:53:00.001+08:00

1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable size.

2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's lifetime.

3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumors.

4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental, food and lifestyle factors.

5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and including supplements will strengthen the immune system.

6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow, gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver, kidneys, heart, lungs etc.

7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages healthy cells, tissues and organs.

8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not result in more tumor destruction.

9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.

10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer cells to spread to other sites.

11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.

CANCER CELLS FEED ON:

a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc. are made with Aspartame and it is harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses but only in very small amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make it white in color. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.

b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and substituting with unsweetened soya milk cancer cells are being starved.

c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.

d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains, seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment. About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try to drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts) and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees Celsius).

e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine. Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties. Water- best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.

12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrefied and leads to more toxic buildup.

13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from or eating less meat it frees more enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's killer cells to destroy the cancer cells.

14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor ssence, Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like vitamin E are known to cause apotheosis, or programmed cell death, the body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded cells.

15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger, forgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax and enjoy life.

16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.

The Best Time To Get Married

2010-07-03T11:44:00.000+08:00

Before you do anything else planning your wedding you must set your wedding date. It is a fun project, but be prepared to be challenged. Determining the best possible wedding date sounds easier than it is. Prior to you making your decision, there are many events and significant dates to take into account. The day you get married will be determined by factors such as venue availability, holidays, school schedules, who can attend, and many more.

More or less, there is 12-18 months between the time of engagement and the wedding day. Since there are so many parts to planning a successful wedding, one year may not be enough time for many. Before setting your date for the big day, you have to consider the schedules of everyone important to you. If you want the most important people in your life to attend your wedding, you must consider their schedule. Business assignments, birthdays, graduations, vacations, and other events may prevent people important to you attending your wedding day.

Getting married during the hottest wedding season has many challenges. It is not only more difficult to find available vendors and venues; the prices are normally higher too. Consequently, be prepared to pay premium for reception sites, photography services, flowers, limos, etc. In addition to hire costs, you have to consider challenges based on availability. Your dream location may not be available on your dream date, so don’t fall in love with a venue until you have secured it for your date.

May through September are among the busiest months for weddings. If you can, consider getting married one of the off months. November through April gives you more opportunities to choose reception venues. In addition to having more options, you are going to be in much better position to negotiate a better price. During the slower months, you are bound to get better service because more vendors are competing for your business.

If you are going to get married on a Saturday, be prepared to compete with many other brides for the same venues and services. Saturday is the most convenient day for your invitees, but it means you have to deal with scheduling challenges and hire costs. Fridays and Sundays are considered the next best days and are still much more convenient than other days.

There is no wedding date without its challenges, and there are sure to be pros and cons to any possible date. Your challenge is to consider the best possible wedding date based on your needs and desires.

Your First Time Brazilian Bikini Wax

2010-07-03T11:28:00.000+08:00

First, you must be sure that you want to get a brzailian bikini wax. Consider trying first the standard bikini wax which will remove the hair from your bikini line or the full bikini which will remove most of your pubic hair apart from the most sensitive areas. A brazilian bikini wax removes ALL your pubic hair.

We advice you to get your first brazilian bikini wax by a professional. Many women who try to give themselves a brazilian bikini wax, cause damage and their bikini area looks worse after the brazilian wax.

You could find a salon that offers a brazilian bikini wax in any big US city. Just look in the “Yellow pages” or in any search engine for “brazilian wax” + “name of your city”.

After locating a salon, find out how many brazilian waxes they do a week? Make sure that the persons who are responsible for the brazilian bikini wax are experienced. Ask to talk to customers that got a brazilian bikini wax from the same salon.

Open your purse. A brazilian bikini wax may cost up to 100 US dollars. However, the average cost is about 50 bucks. We advice you pay not less than the average price to get a professional treatment.

Come to your scheduled treatment with a good mood after taking a warm shower cleaning your pubic area.

You will get into a separate room or a hole with a curtain. Then you will lie on a bed with your knees up or legs down.

Then, the therapist will trim down your pubic hair with scissors to a length of about a quarter inch.

Afterwards, the real thing will start. The waxer will start the waxing process. He will use a low temperature wax to cause less pain. When the wax cools he will pull it out with your pubic hair. This part is the most painful one. However, the first time is the most painful one. The hair can be pulled out easier in the following times.

The waxer will ask you to get into some weird uncomfortable positions – holding your legs up, to the side and even over your head.

If the waxer is a good one the painful part will end quickly. If you feel it takes too long or that the pain is unbearable, just tell the therapist that you need a little rest.

When the waxing is done a soothing lotion should be applied to the pubic area.

Your bikini area will stay smooth for at least 3 weeks with no maintenance at all. Make the most out of it.

What's Wrong With My Face?

2010-07-03T11:24:00.000+08:00

The term acne refers to whiteheads and blackheads (skin pores that get clogged) and nodules or cysts, which are deep lumps. These are found on a persons face, chest, neck, back shoulders and sometimes the upper arms. Most teenagers are affected by acne to some degree although folks in other age groups can experience acne as late as into their 40's. It's not life threatening but can be disconcerting to your view of yourself and can even be permanently disfiguring if severe. A person with acne can end up with permanent scars. In fact, it doesn't even have to be severe at the outbreak to end up scarring forever.

Acne's causes go back to hormonal changes at the onset of puberty, with oil glands producing in abundance. These oil glands, known as sebaceous glands, are primarily affected by male hormones known as androgens. Females have androgens as well, though they don't have as many as males.

A hair shaft inside a sebaceous gland make up what is known as a sebaceous follicle. While going through puberty, the skin cells lining these follicles shed more quickly than in past years. In those who experience acne the cells shed but stick together more than in those who don't get acne. When these cells stick together this overabundance of sebum (oil) probably will end up plugging the follicle's opening and because the sebaceous gland doesn't stop producing its sebum the follicle simply swells up.

What also happens is that a bacterium called P.acnes, that is normal to have in skin, start to quickly multiply in the hair follicle that is clogged. The substances produced by these bacteria are irritating and cause inflammation. The follicle sometimes bursts and then the inflammation spreads to skin surrounding it. This is the way that acne's lesions - whether pimples, blackheads or nodules - form.

There are several myths about acne that we'd like to dispel. The first is that your poor hygiene causes acne. People who believe this myth ended up scrubbing their faces and other skin parts harshly and too often, which often makes the acne condition even worse. Acne does not happen because your surface skin is covered by dirt or oil. While you don't want to leave dead skin, dirt or excess oil on your skin you don't want to vigorously scrub it away either, or you'll exacerbate the acne problem. What you should do instead is wash your face gently twice each day and then put it dry. You may also want to use an acne treatment - over the counter or prescribed.

The second myth about acne's cause is that stress brings it on. Ordinary stress is not related to acne at all, although if you suffer from stress that becomes severe enough to warrant the care of a physician and prescribed medications those medications might produce acne. If you're taking drugs for depression or other stress related symptoms and you have an acne breakout you should see your doctor.

The third myth about acne is that your poor diet choices cause it. Your mother probably told you to avoid chocolate or fried foods or even pizza and it would help your acne. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Food intake doesn't affect acne. A balance diet is a good choice for your overall health, of course, but it just doesn't affect acne.

Another myth is that acne is just a cosmetic problem - in other words, not a big issue. People who think this way disregard the effect it can have on the way people - especially teenagers - feel about themselves. The other issue is that it can permanently scar.

Women’s Self-Defense Against Men

2010-07-03T11:15:00.000+08:00

When looking at the increasing numbers of reports about violence against women, it is clear that women’s self-defense against men is becoming an important issue in today’s society. There are many products and techniques designed for women’s self-defense against men, from mace guns to judo and assertiveness training. Unfortunately, these things are becoming increasingly necessary, and it is essential to stay informed of the most effective strategies for women’s self-defense against men.

Since more and more women are working overtime and at late hours, extra attention should be given to women’s self-defense against men. Dark parking lots are among the most dangerous places, and it is good idea to walk into a parking lot with a special device, such as a small alarm, whistle or light, or where it is legal, a mace gun or stun gun. The mace or stun guns should not be shaped like actual guns, but should be disguised as cell phones, pens or key chains which can be carried by hand without attracting undue attention.

It is important to principle of women’s self defense against men always to look straight ahead and always to appear alert. Potential attackers are always on the lookout for women who seem unaware of their surroundings, so give an impression of confidence.

Before opening your car door, always inspect the inside to ensure that no one is there. A portable flashlight can be useful for this inspection. Make sure your car door is always locked, and, if you unlock your car door with a remote control, avoid locking and unlocking the door too far in advance of your entry. This will prevent someone from crawling into your car.

Women’s self-defense against men is not always focused on strangers, but, more often than not, an attacker is someone the woman knows. Before making the attack, the person usually stalks the woman to find out her habits and where she is the most vulnerable.

It is therefore a good idea to change your route frequently if you jog or walk for exercise. Be on the lookout for people who are watching your activities and make sure that you are aware of potential dangers. Like fire drills, women’s self-defense calls for identifying potential danger spots, so, as you go through your day, look for those places where a person can easily intrude.

Many strategies for women’s self-defense against men include some kind of martial arts training. Although many critics complain that techniques learned in classes can not be adapted well to the street, martial arts give women strength and confidence to be able to ward off an attacker.

There are many varieties of martial arts to choose from, and it is a good idea to experiment with several classes before narrowing down your choice. Popular martial arts courses for women’s self-defense against men include:

• Tae Kwan Do
• Kenpo
• Judo
• Hapkido
• Kung Fu
• Karate

Tae Kwan Do is a good choice for women’s self-defense against men, because it emphasizes punches and kicks that can repel attacks. Akido emphasizes throws and joint locks, which are more aggressive techniques to deal with attackers. Kenpo and Karate were developed through principles of aesthetics and spirituality, as well as a mean s of self-defense. Kung Fu focuses on the movements of five animals: the dragon, tiger, snake leopard and crane. Martial arts give the added benefit of physical fitness and self-confidence to women’s self-defense against men.

The most important principle to remember for effective women’s self-defense against men is confidence. If a woman looks and seems aware and confident, a potential attacker is less likely to approach her, because he knows he will be unlikely to succeed. In addition, if she feels competent, she is far more likely to defend herself well and to prevent an attack.

Women Bosses - Balancing Work & Home Life

2010-07-03T11:07:00.001+08:00

It can be very difficult for a woman to balance home life with that of work, which is especially true with women bosses. Even for those who have risen to the top of the company ladder, women bosses are challenged everyday.

For women bosses who are single, time may not be as much at issue as those who have children. When work becomes demanding, women bosses have to find a way to remain committed to their job while also making their children a priority above all else. It isn’t enough to hire a babysitter or enroll them in preschool because children need their mom and nothing can take the place of quality time spent reading a book, watching cartoons or tucking them in at night.

If at all possible, women bosses with families at home should try to work early in the day so that they will have time to spend with their husband and children in the evening. This allows time for the children to get their school day completed and enjoy a normal evening at home.

In today’s world, women bosses have to work hard in order to achieve a management position. With a long term position and years of service to a company, many will increase their chances of moving up to becoming women bosses. For others who are hired directly into a management position, a strong background in leadership, a college degree and familiarity with authority are all qualities that company executives look for in women bosses.

The most important thing, when searching for a position in leadership, is to stay focused. By never losing sight on their career goal, many women bosses have achieved success even after years of effort. In the world of business, there is plenty of rejection and hardship to go around. The main thing is to never get discouraged and keep trying until the perfect job is found.

Women bosses are terrific to be, but they are also great to work for. An understanding of having to work hard to get ahead and realizing what it takes for a woman to succeed are just a few of the things that women bosses understand. Knowing what it’s like to spend time with family, prioritize home and work life and working closely with employees to make sure that they have a good balance of both are a few of the qualities that many women bosses possess. If you have the chance to be one, take it. If you have the chance to work for one, accept it. Women bosses are everywhere and they make companies, and their employees, strive to be the best.

Save So You Can Bank on a Bright Future

2010-04-07T17:29:00.001+08:00

Have you reached the point when merely looking at your bank statements you get a headache already? You might find your records out of place. You might even find yourself lost as to your current status and accounts. However, this is not a point for you to simply fret.

Now, you have to take the matters to your own hand.

Saving Money

Saving money is an important matter. It is something that you have to do regularly to come up with a considerable amount. With the current trends of the economy and the widespread consumerism, it has to be part of your lifestyle as it is your way to ensure a brighter future.

Banking

Most people who really want to save would maintain a savings account in a bank rather than put it in a money box or under a pillow at home. Putting the money in the bank is really a prudent move. The money is in safekeeping. It is not within your immediate reach, thus it is not within your immediate disposal. It can even earn interest.

Banking Strategy for More Savings

This means organizing your finances. This is where you look at your status, plan ways to improve your standing and make terms work for your benefit.

Savings Account

Having a savings account is definitely a sure way of getting assistance in your pursuit to save. However, you must be doing the right thing. Your money must really stay there. You actually have to maintain a certain amount to earn interest with your account.

If you cannot keep yourself from withdrawing, hide your ATM card. This defeats your goal to save and too many withdrawals will incur you fees.

Long-Term Deposits

Should it prove difficult to keep your savings account balance intact, you can opt to long-term deposits. This is where a certificate of deposit is given to you in exchange of a certain amount of your money. You can get higher interest rate here, so your money can earn more. You are also not allowed to get back the money within a certain period or else you have to pay a fine. The fine should be deterrent enough to keep from spending.

Features and Offers

Identify among the various banks out there. Consider the features they provide to clients. One bank will offer higher interest rates although you may feel more secure with another bank. Some also give special offers for a certain period. Simply know your options and study the information carefully before making a decision.

Extra Money for Your Extra Time

2010-04-07T17:25:00.002+08:00

Earning extra money for your future, that is definitely not a bad thing!

However, is it an easy thing? One definitely wants that for a stronger foundations for the future, but how can you manage?

Saving Money

One of the better ways to have a more secured future is to have more than enough money in your bank account, to be more liquid.

Time is Gold

Sometime in a day, you may find yourself with nothing to do. You can either take this time to rest, to sleep, to read a book or any of your favorite pastimes. Basically anything will do just to keep you sane and as long you do not have to spend too much money.

However, instead of looking for activities that will not be too costly to maintain, it is better to pursue things that can even help you earn money. If you have enough free time, consider taking a part-time job. More than saving money, you can even expect more dough into your savings!

Why Should I Get a Part-time Job?

- It can be a source for your extra money for your savings.
- You make good use of your free time.
- For a student, the experience can teach a lot about life and the real world.
- You can meet interesting people.
- There is the possibility of discovering new skills or passions.
- Getting a good part-time job can actually be a start to a more serious endeavor.

Getting a Part-time Job

It will be relatively easy to get a part-time job. You can look up the posters or newspapers. Inquire in different establishments for openings in part-time positions. Ask friends who may recommend you. You can even provide services of your own skills like tutorial, writing or painting.

The job may require from you a few hours of your week. It can be something you do in the afternoons, during the weekends, or during school breaks.

You may feel challenged by exploring this new possibility in your life. You will have to balance your part-time job with what you regularly do. Simply manage your work and time properly. Save time too. Do minor tasks when traveling or waiting. Give no room for distraction, procrastination or cramming.

As long as you keep track of your extra earnings and savings, in the long run, your part-time job will definitely help do wonders to your plans in the future.

Tips on How to Teach Your Kids to Save Money

2010-04-07T17:22:00.002+08:00

A lot of teens nowadays do not understand the value of earning and spending money. They were not oriented that investing is necessary even if they are still students. As parents, you play a crucial role in this area.

You should be able to teach your kids on how to save money. They should be able to understand the concept of money and investment as early as childhood. This will prepare them to learn money management, as they grow old.

Here are some tips on how you can teach your children how to save money:

1. Your children should be educated of the meaning of money. Once your children have learned how to count, that is the perfect time for you teach them the real meaning of money. You should be consistent and explain to them in simple ways and do this frequently so that they may be able to remember what you taught them.

2. Always explain to them the value of saving money. Make them understand its importance and how it will impact their life. It is important that you entertain questions from them about money and you should be able to answer them right away.

3. When giving them their allowances. You need to give them their allowances in denominations. Then you can encourage them that they should keep a certain bill for the future. You can motivate them to do this by telling them that the money can be saved and they can buy new pair of shoes or the toys they want once they are able to save.

4. You can also teach them to work for money. You can start this at your own home. You can pay them fifty cents to one dollar every time they clean their rooms, do the dishes or feed their pets. This concept of earning little money will make them think that money is something they have worked for and should be spent wisely.

5. You can teach them to save money by giving them piggy banks where they can put coins and wait until they get full. You can also open bank accounts for them and let them deposit money from their allowance. You should always show them how much they have earned to keep them motivated.

Money and saving is not something that is learned by children in one sitting. You should be patient in teaching them and relating the value of money in all of their activities. Children will learn this easily if you are patient and consistent in guiding them and encouraging them in this endeavor.

Essential Money Saving Tips for Students

2010-04-07T17:20:00.000+08:00

It is easy to get caught in the rush of things when you are in college. In the midst of studying, part-time jobs, socializing and extracurricular activities that you have, you are most likely to forget one of the most important things, which is straightening out your finances.

Here are some tips on how you can save money as a student:

1. Plan ahead.

If possible, do this even before you move into your dorm room.

Check if you are eligible for scholarships and other grants before signing up for any form of student loan.

Construct a cash flow. First, where do you expect to get money from? Make a list of your “income”, be it from your parents, your student loan or your part-time job.

Then forecast your expected monthly or weekly expenses for food, books, etc. Once you have set aside a budget, be strict with yourself and stick to it.

You will never know what unexpected expenses would come your way so it is better to have a downfall for financial emergencies.

2. Save on food.

One of the major expenses that you have as a student which you might have ignored when you were still living with your parents is your food allowance. Avoid eating at fast food outlets, as this is most likely to ruin your budget. Pack your lunch and plan your meals as much as you can.

3. Take full advantage of student discounts.

Those ID’s in your wallet are not just for show. Student ID’s and memberships in organizations are honored in several establishments which offer discounts.

Also, patronize a certain establishment regularly and you are bound to get bonus cards for being a loyal customer.

4. Use your cash as much as you can.

Since you already have a draft of the items where you will spend your money, it is easier to monitor your cash flow. Avoid using your debit card when you have cash with you. Use your credit cards or write checks only in emergencies. Having debit cards, credit cards and checks handy might lead you to overspend.

5. Keep yourself busy.

Join clubs according to your field of interest.

Keeping busy will let your mind wander and help you stay away from things that you are likely to spend money on when you get bored. Examples of these are snacks, movie tickets or game rentals.

You will be surprised at the amount of money that you will actually save by spending less on luxury items, following your budget plan and saving for financial emergencies that you are most likely to get as a college student.

Saving Money on Electricity: A Money-Saving Maintenance

2010-04-07T17:15:00.002+08:00

An electrical appliance that does not work at maximum capacity results in less than ideal performance and higher electricity bills. That is why it is best to save on electricity in order to save more money.

Here is how you can get everything saving up:

1. Keep your appliances clean and well maintained. Regular cleaning and maintenance keeps your appliances in top shape, hence, it will perform better and consumes lesser energy. Energy saved is money saved.

2. Have an annual checkup by a qualified service technician. This can reduce the appliance’s operating costs by as much as 20%, extend the life of the system, and improve its safety and air quality.

3. When using air conditioners, it is best to establish your comfort temperature, and then setting your thermostat at that level permanently. This will definitely save on electric bills because the air conditioning unit takes less energy to cool air four to five degrees than it does to cool air eight to ten degrees.

4. Replace any items that may have been 10 years or older already. Old appliances are most likely not at their optimum efficiency. By replacing them, your electric bills may be cut by half.

5. If you experience a power outage, make sure you turn off the switch on your appliances and allow time to pass before turning the appliances on again when the power returns.

6. In refrigerators, do not overstuff compartments with bottles and plastic containers. Cool air must circulate freely to avoid overworking the condenser.

Also, try not to leave the door of your refrigerator as open as possible or open longer than what is needed. This will have the tendency to allow the cool air to break out.

7. Always try to look for the “energy saving” logo or notes whenever you buy your new appliances. Buying an appliance with a logo that states it consumes lower energy, it will definitely let you save more money on your electricity.

8. Always use energy saving lights or light bulbs. These energy saving lights or light bulbs usually last up to 12 times longer. Plus, energy saving light bulbs consume less energy. Hence, you will be able to save more money just by saving on electricity.

9. Use energy-saving facilities at home like energy-saving windows or energy-saving appliances. This will lessen the consumption of energy and, thus, will let you save on money.

For instance, use a “double-glazed” window instead of the ordinary window.

10. Use insulators at home. This will not let the warm or cool air out, and vice-versa.

Indeed, saving on electricity will definitely save more money.

What is a Corset?

2010-03-30T17:58:00.002+08:00

A corset is an item of clothing worn to help shape the upper boby into a desired shape for aesthetic, or sometimes orthopaedic, reaons (either while wearing it, or for more permanent results). Men and women have both worn and still wear corsets.

The craft of making corsets is known as corsetry, as is the general wearing of them. A person who designs and makes corsets is a corsetier (for a man) or corsetière (for a woman), or simply a corsetmaker.

The most popular use of corsets is to shap the body into a beautiful, fashionable silhouette shape. For women this usually emphasises a curvy figure, by reducing the waist, and thereby exaggerating the bust and hips. However corsets have also been worn to achieve a more tubular shape although this is less common.

For men, corsets are more customarily used to slim the figure. However, there was a period from around 1820 to 1835 when an hourglass figure was also desirable for men; this was sometimes achieved by wearing a corset.

Corsets are constructed of flexible materials such as satin, leather, pvc, denim, and velvet. They are stiffened with boning (also called ribs or stays) inserted into channels in the material. Steel and whalebone were favored in the Victorian period but plastic is now the most commonly used material. Steel is used for high-quality corsets. Other materials that have been used for boning include ivory, wood, and cane. (A girdle is usually made of elasticised fabric, not boning.)

A corset encloses the upper body, usually from under the arms to the hips. Some corsets however extend over the hips and may even reach the knees. A shorter kind of corset, which covers the waist area (from below the ribs to just above the hips), is called a 'waist cincher' or underbust corset. A corset may also include garters to hold up stockings.

Corsets are held together by lacing, usually at the back. Tightening or loosening the lacing changes the firmness of the corset. It is possible for a back-laced corset-wearer to do his or her own lacing, though it can be difficult. However, many corsets also have a buttoned or hooked front opening. Once the lacing is adjusted comfortably, it is possible to leave the lacing as adjusted and take the corset on and off using the front opening. This method is incompatible with tightlacing, which strives for the maximum reduction of the waist. Tightlacers are usually laced by spouses and partners.

In the past, a woman's corset was usually worn over a garment called a chemise or shift, a sleeveless low-necked gown made of washable material (usually cotton or linen). These absorbed perspiration and kept the corset clean. Now an undershirt or corset liner is usually worn.

Wearing Red Has Never Been So Stylish-Or Such A Healthy Idea

2010-03-30T17:53:00.001+08:00

Wearing red-the color of life and love-can do more than help you stop traffic. It could help save lives.

As part of the American Heart Association's Go Red For Women movement, millions of women are wearing this joyful color to celebrate their commitment to keeping their hearts healthy.

The movement has helped revive interest in making the color red even more fashionable. Wearing this vibrant color offers women a chance to stand out and make a statement.

"Color is an easy and affordable way to express yourself through what you wear," says style and beauty expert Andy Paige. "Red is an empowering color. Once you feel the lift this color gives your spirits and see the attention it attracts, you may decide to make it a mainstay of your wardrobe all year."

According to Paige, there are as many ways to wear red as there are good reasons to do it.

Go Red from head to toe or accent an outfit with red accessories. Carry a fabulous red handbag or kick up your heels in red stilettos. Red isn't just for women, either; men can Go Red by wearing a red shirt, tie or socks.

Try these tips from Paige:

Pick the perfect red. If your coloring is warm, try a rich tomato or pomegranate. If it's cool, think cherry or scarlet.

Worried about looking washed out? Fill in the neckline of a red blouse or sweater with a scarf in a softer shade or wear red away from your face-in a skirt, pants or boots.

Put a new spin on it. Wear red accessories, like the ones at ShopGoRed.com, in offbeat ways. Substitute two tiny red-dress pins (the Go Red For Women symbol) for cufflinks on a French-cuffed shirt; tie a red-dress logo scarf around your wrist or use it as a watchband.

Don't forget your lips, tips and locks. Glossy red lipstick and nail polish are classic ways to add a touch of glamour. Take it a step further and color your hair red-any shade from strawberry blonde to burgundy will do.

Be Bold, Be Noticed and Be Heart Healthy

Regardless of the shade or the accessory you choose, wearing red can also be a fashion statement that says, "I am taking a stand for my heart health."

Paige advises, "Incorporating red into your wardrobe serves as a visual reminder to love your heart and Go Red in your own fashion."

The How To's Of Choosing Your Lady's Scent

2010-03-30T17:42:00.001+08:00

If finding the right perfume for your woman is one hard feat to conquer, follow these tips and you're sure to win her heart in a jiffy!

If you consider the wide array of choices that you can possibly give to your woman, the possibilities are endless. Because of the availability of so many options, you may even end up buying her the wrong one! However, one common gift that more often than not assures you of a smile and a kiss or more from your woman is when you give her a bottle of perfume.

You can never go wrong when you opt to give your women perfume for a special occasion. Unless she's allergic to its compounds or really has no preference for a certain scent, then you may stray from the perfumes category in your shopping list. But, if perfume is not contraindicated, then go ahead and buy her one!

Getting to a decision that it is, in fact, perfume that you want to give her, is easy. But when you get to the part of which brand, what scent, and at what price, you may get confused because of all the combinations of these factors available in the market. You don't have to be bewildered for long. How?

First, clue yourself in on what your woman usually wears as perfume. What scent does she usually spray on her? Is it a strong and heavy aroma or light and woodsy? Do you usually smell floral and fruits on her or cool and sporty? Or does she settle for warmer scents? If your woman doesn’t wear any perfume (and this hardly ever happens) then you can move on to the next step.

The personality of your woman usually gives away the scent that would work on her. If she's sophisticated and classy you can choose perfumes that have a stronger scent, one that commands attention when she enters a room or you can settle for subtle scents, one that only those who can approach her can appreciate. If your woman is sporty and is always on the go, then cool and sporty scents would work wonderfully on her. This type of scent doesn’t weigh her down and helps cool her down when she’s on the move. A blend of light and woodsy citrus scents is perfect for adventurous women. This type of perfume helps her keep the zest that she so eagerly lives by in the world. How about if your woman reminds you of a warm spring’s day, then a combination of floral and fruits perfume would add to the charm she captivates you with.

The bottle that holds the perfume can also be an essential tool that would help you make a decision. Most perfumes are collectibles for women, and the better the bottles look, the more they'll like to add it to their collection. You can even put a little twist to this activity by matching the shape and colors of the bottle with the personality of your woman. If she’s plump and delicious, you can go for bottles that are rounded and have a deep and richer color. If she’s slim and sexy, bottles that are slender and comes in feminine colors may be perfect for her. If you’re woman is on the wild side and always lives life on the edge, you can go for the more out of the ordinary bottles that come in varied shapes and sizes to match her adoring outrageousness.

You can also settle for asking her directly what type of perfume she wants, but either you'll get an ambiguous answer or the gift won’t be special and it won't surprise her anymore.

If you really can't make up your mind and you need her help, play it up a notch and make a game of letting her choose the perfume that she wants together with you! It may not be a surprise but the event that surrounds it is sure to make up for it.

You can also be creative and just choose the perfume you, yourself, want to smell on her. There are always testers of the perfumes available for you to sample before you can choose to purchase it.

The best thing that you can also do aside from giving her just perfume is to give her a complete set with the same scent! These sets usually include bath salts, shower gels, and body lotions and they come in really neat packages that will surely capture the heart of the woman in your life. This way not only your woman can benefit from the gift but you can, as well. You can make a sexy and/or fun activity from it! Why not try preparing the bath for her and scrubbing her with your gift? You could also slather her delicately with the body lotion. Share in the fun that your gift gives to your woman!

Whatever perfumes you may choose to give her in the end; if it has a personal touch then that gift will surely be appreciated. Women love to see their men go to great lengths just finding the perfect give for them. Try these tips the next time you shop for your woman and you can be sure that this gift will not be collecting dust in her closet.

Tips to treat acne

2010-03-30T17:38:00.002+08:00

Acne is a broad term, which includes blemishes, blackheads, and whiteheads. Acne can strike at any age. Effective acne treatments are sometimes difficult to find, and understanding acne and prevention can be frustrating. Here are some acne treatment tips that have worked for many.

Although acne is not life threatening it can be uncomfortable and hard on your ego. There has always been a debate about the actual cause of acne. The actual cause is not as important as finding a cure.

So is there a cure for acne. Well yes and no. There are many products available and for some they are a cure, for others they do not help. A cure is only a cure when you find a product that works for you.

Most acne treatments will take time to work. It usually takes around 8 weeks before you see any significant improvement so you are going to have to be patient. Once you have got your acne cleared up it is important to continue with the treatment that is working so it does not return.

If you have serious acne, it is best to consult a dermatologist. However, in milder cases you will often be able to get it under control by yourself just by persevering. Try these tips to conquer your acne.

Exercise
Regular exercise helps keep your whole body in shape. It builds your immune system and helps eliminate toxins from the body. It is a great start to fighting acne.

Diet
You need to eat at least 5 servings of fresh fruit and vegetables each day. Fresh fruit and vegetables are full of nutrients that your body needs. They boost the immune system and are good antioxidants. They can work towards helping you get rid of the acne. Try to avoid refined sugars and fatty foods which have are not good for you or your skin. You also need to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day to flush your system of toxins.

Cosmetics
Choose cosmetics that are water based and hypo-allergenic. Avoid oil free products, coal tar derivatives, and heavy creams. Make sure you wash your skin thoroughly every night to remove makeup residue.

Hormones
Hormones can play a role in acne flare ups and they can be used to reduce outbreaks. Your doctor may decide to use HRT to eliminate or reduce your acne outbreaks.

Clean Skin
You need to avoid harsh scrubbing of your face but you also need to thoroughly clean your skin nightly. Use a mild cleaning regime every night. Once or twice a week you should also, use an exfoliator to gently remove damaged skin and unplug pores.

Shaving
Is actually a great exfoliating treatment the removes dead skin. However, you should never shave an area that is infected or inflamed. Always use a shaving cream if your skin is sensitive.

Stress
Can be a contributing factor to acne so try to relax and unwind. Emotions trigger chemical reactions in the body, which can cause an outbreak.

You can help control your acne outbreaks by following these simple steps. What are you waiting for?

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22 Rules For a Wonderful Living

2010-03-11T16:44:00.000+08:00

1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

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2. Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.

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3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

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4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

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5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

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6. Be generous.

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7. Have a grateful heart.

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8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

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9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

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10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

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11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

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12. Commit yourself to quality.

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13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationship with people you love and respect.

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14. Be loyal.

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15. Be honest.

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16. Be a self-starter.

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17. Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong

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18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

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19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.

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20. Take good care of those you love.

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21. Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud.

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22. Do something every day that would make you proud tomorrow.

My Family My Everything

2010-03-11T16:40:00.001+08:00

妻子的空位 (The irreplaceable void)

2009-11-09T11:36:00.005+08:00

是一篇很值得分享的故事

A story worth sharing

我的妻子因為意外事故離開我身邊已經四年了，我想，妻子留下不會做任何家事的我和孩子，她的心有何等難過呢？我也因為無法兼顧父母雙親的角色而感到挫折。有一天我為了出差，清晨趕出門，無法將孩子打點好就得離開家，正巧前一天有剩下的飯，我熱了蒸蛋，向還沒有睡醒的孩子交代一聲，就出門去了。

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

為了照顧好孩子飲食三餐的事，我也無力把自己的工作做好。有一天晚上回到家，我只是很簡短地和孩子打個招呼，就因為身體疲累，不想吃晚餐，脫掉西裝之後就直接往床上躺下。就在那個時候，砰的一聲，紅色的湯汁跟泡麵瞬時弄髒了床單和被單，原來有碗泡麵在棉被裡！這小子真是的，說時遲那時快，我即時拿起一個衣架，跑出去，往正玩著玩具的兒子的屁股就打，因為我實在是太生氣了，所以不停地打他。但就在這個時候，他邊啜泣邊說了一段話，使我停了下來。

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet? and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

兒子告訴我說：「飯鍋裡的飯早上已經吃完了，晚餐在幼稚園吃了，但是到了晚上，爸爸還不回來，我就在櫥櫃的抽屜裡找到了泡麵。可是我想到爸爸說不能亂動瓦斯爐，所以我就打開洗澡的水龍頭，用熱水泡了泡麵，一個自己吃，另一個想留給爸爸吃。因為怕泡麵涼掉，所以我就把它放在棉被裡，等你回來。可是因為我正在玩向朋友借來的玩具，所以忘了跟爸爸講。」

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

我不想讓兒子看到我在流淚，所以衝到洗手間，將水龍頭打開，大聲地哭。過了一陣子之後，我打起精神來，一面哄著兒子，一面也在他屁股上擦藥，讓他上床睡覺。當我清理好泡麵弄髒的床單和棉被後，打開兒子的房門一看，發現他仍舊發出哭泣聲，手裡還拿著媽媽的照片。我把頭靠在房門站了許久，看著這一幕。

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries.?After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

自從在一年前發生這件事之後，我為了扮演好媽媽的角色，更加用心地去照顧他。現在兒子快七歲了，不久後就要從幼稚園畢業，進入國小讀書。慶幸的是，兒子在這段時間毫無陰影，很開朗地成長。

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

就在不久前，我再一次打孩子，因為幼稚園來電話說，兒子沒有去學校，我心裡覺得很不安，所以早退回家，在整個社區裡大聲地喊他的名字，卻是遍尋不著。後來在文具店的門?f，看見他站在電玩的前面，於是我很生氣，又開始一直打他。兒子並沒有說出任何的解釋，只說了聲對不起。後來我才知道，原來剛好是幼稚園要邀請媽媽去
看才藝表演的日子。

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

發生這些事的幾天後，兒子回家說，他在幼稚園裡學了寫字，從此他經常關在自己的房間裡不出來，很認真地寫字。我看到兒子這個樣子，想到妻子在天國也一定會因為看到他這樣而微笑，我就無法忍住淚水。

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

時間很快，又過了一年，到了冬天，街頭上都在播放著聖誕節的歌曲，我的兒子卻又闖了一個禍。我正要下班的時候，接到一通社區郵局的電話，說我兒子把一綑沒有寫地址的信，惡作劇地放在郵筒裡。每年到了年底，正是郵局最忙碌的時候，所以這對他們造成很大的困擾。雖然我已決定不再打孩子，但在急忙趕回家後，叫了兒子來，我又忍不住痛打他一頓。兒子這一次只是說他做錯了，卻沒有講出任何理由。我把他推到一個角落，不管了，自個兒跑到郵局領回那一綑惡作劇的信。我把信丟到他眼前說：「你為什麼要這樣惡作劇？」兒子哭著回答說：「這些信是我要寄給媽媽的。」

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was :? The letters were for Mummy.

當時我的眼眶紅了起來，心裡很激動，但是因為在兒子面前，所以我盡量隱忍住沒有表現出來。我接著問他：「那麼，為什麼一次寄這麼多信呢？」兒子回答說：「以前我要把信投進去的時候，因為個兒太矮，所以沒辦法投入，但是最近我再去郵筒時，已經搆得到了，所以我就把以前沒有寄的，一次全部都投進入了。」

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

我聽了以後，心中一片茫然，不知道該對孩子說什麼話。過了不久以後，我就跟他說：「媽媽現在在天上，以後你寫完信，把信燒了，就能送到天國去。」等孩子睡著之後，我到外面燒了那些信。我很好奇到底孩子想跟媽媽說些什麼，所以讀了其中的幾封信。

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn't help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

而當中有一封信攪動了我的心。

And one of the letters broke my heart....

親愛的媽媽：
我很想念你！媽媽，今天在幼稚園有才藝表演，但是因為我沒有媽媽，所以沒有去參加，我也沒有告訴爸爸，怕爸爸會想念媽媽。爸爸到處去找我，但我為了讓爸爸看到我很開心的樣子，所以故意坐在電動玩具面前，雖然爸爸罵我，但是我到最後也沒有告訴他原因。媽媽，我每天都看到爸爸因為想念媽媽而哭泣，我想爸爸也跟我一樣，很想念媽媽吧！但是，媽，我現在已經記不清楚你的臉。媽媽，請你讓我在夢中，再一次能夠看到你的臉，好嗎？聽說把想念的人的照片放在懷裡睡覺，就會夢到那個人。可是，媽媽，為什麼你沒有出現在我的夢裡呢？」

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a? 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room.? I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mummy, why haven't you appear?

讀完這封信以後，我就開始嚎啕大哭。到底什麼時候，我才能填補妻子的空位呢？

After reading the letter, I cant stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

給已經結婚的女同事：

不要加太多班，工作做不完，一定是公司的某些地方出問題了，一定要將問題反應給妳的老闆，一直加班也不見的有用的，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝。

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of your little precious.

給已經結婚的男同事：

不要喝太多酒，不要抽太多煙，請問我們的生意，我們的客戶，有比我們的身體重要嗎？
一定要想一想，有沒有辦法做到客人非我們不行，我們的差異化在哪裡，我們是否真的懂客人的心，這比拼命喝酒，還重要，請務必要照顧自己的身體，才可以好好疼惜妳的小寶貝和你的愛人。

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

給還沒有結婚的男同事和女同事：

美其實是從愛自己的身體開始 --（蔣勳，身體美學）。
無入而不自得 -- （孔子）。

妳/你們一定要很自在，工作才能做的好，如果工作讓你/妳們的心情做的很辛苦，代表的是我們的公司不夠聰明，那也是公司什麼地方不對了，要勇敢的說出來，不要讓不聰明的工作與老闆，傷害了妳/你們的身體。

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

Incredible Children Performance

2009-10-26T17:32:00.005+08:00

Incredible children performance. I couldn't believe it until I saw this. A must see video featuring performance by 2 very cute Ukraine children.

Ukraine Got Talent Cute Children Performance

10 inspirational quotes to improve yourself

2009-09-25T13:41:00.001+08:00

It might take a little coffee or probably a few rounds of beer or any other booze you could get your hands on when it comes to relaxing after a hard day's work. Well, yeah I'm guilty about that one as well, unless I'm caught dead wearing a lampshade over my head after a few rounds of vodka… half-naked! Okay, bad example and I apologize to everyone reading this after getting nightmares about me in that state of drunken stupor.

Just don't ask how it happened, please.

But what's really interesting is that how do people go through the usual part of life when faced with vein-popping stress? I mean, the new age thing like Zen or yoga is one of the good things and it actually works. Is there room for the intellectual side of people who can actually smell the roses-in-a-can while on the move? It’s kind of had me thinking that there really must be something in this 'mind-over-matter' thing.

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what's been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it's better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of my favorite celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he's bound to mock the subject and you'll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

1. "Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons." It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn't have to take an arm and a leg to get it.

2. "I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it's the government." 'Nuff said.

3. "There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?" This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life's little problems isn't all that bad, until 'he' shows up.

Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you're talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.

4. "Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions." And if you want more, just keep on asking!

5. "A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said 'no'." It sounds, 'practical', I think.

And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn't involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.

6. "Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats." I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.

7. "I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens." If it rains, it pours.

8. "I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose." It could get worse when you're guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!

9. "If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans." At least he doesn't smite us with lightning, and I'm thankful for that.

And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can't seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we're religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along.

And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.

10. "The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have."

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

2009-09-25T13:17:00.003+08:00

Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when I feel like the world is just too heavy, I look around and find people who continued to live fascinating and wonderful lives. And then thoughts come popping into my mind like bubbles from nowhere – “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a busy stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for a while… I figured out that maybe, they start to work on a place called ‘self’.

So, how does one become genuinely happy?

Step 1 is to love yourself.

My theology professor once said that “loving means accepting.” To love oneself means to accept that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to be able to discover ways on how to improve your repertoire to recover from our mistakes.

Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question “how to be genuinely happy.”

When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, and to something else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.

I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.

How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.

Imagine life as a big score board like those, which are used in the NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot.” instead of looking at it all blank and murmur, “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won!” and then walk away.

Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a businessman may mean success. So, really now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to have the best things in this world. It’s about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a genuinely happy person.

When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”. For as long as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love ten folds back.

Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely happy?” I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted- “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become happy… you become free.”

Impossible is Just a Word

2009-09-21T12:34:00.001+08:00

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

Common Marriage Problems

2009-09-21T12:25:00.002+08:00

You may think the common problem is because he leaves the toothpaste cap half on or that she keeps on coming back with a new dent on the car.

It is a scary thought – the idea that maybe tomorrow one of you will just come up to the other and say, “I think I don’t want to be married to you anymore.”

One may think they’re ready for it, but the truth is, they never are. They see it coming from a distance, but unfortunately, they were too preoccupied with the problem, they forgot to look for a solution.

And that is what is commonly happening with married couples today. There is so much anticipation on looking out for the telltale marriage trouble signs that once the problem is in your face, hardly anything is done about it.

What are these “common marriage problems” that are being talked about so often? A lot will tell you these problems fall in any of these three categories: career and finances, fidelity and personality.

Strained marriages are rocked by problems from all of these categories but the marriages that survive do so because they addressed the problem properly and looked for a solution – together.

So just how do you actually do that? Saving a marriage is both simple and complex.

It is simple because it just requires you to admit to yourself and to your spouse that you have a problem. On the other hand, it is complex because both of you may not agree on what exactly the problem is and the solution for it.

For both of you to reach an agreement, you must be able to both listen and articulate. Listen first to what your spouse thinks is the problem that’s driving you apart.

After he/she has said her part, then carefully tell her what’s on your mind. This act of listening and communicating then brings to both your attentions the problems with your relationship and the causes for it.

However, the both of you need to take the next step by finding a solution to the problem. This is the tricky part for it will undoubtedly require adjustment from both sides. However, simply making the necessary adjustments alone will not address the problem.

You need to find the reason why you are making these sacrifices. And that reason should be because you love your spouse and want to build on the relationship making it stronger with time.

Whether it is a problem with spending, or with who gets to hold the remote control, marriage problems can be weathered when faced together and worked on together. In time, an open toothpaste tube, or another fender bender won’t have an effect at all on the relationship.

Do you believe in Ghost?

2009-09-18T11:40:00.001+08:00

I feel creepy when I am trying to recall and tell this story.

Amanda asked me this question few nights ago after I have turned off all the lights except the one in the bedroom. "Mommy, do you think that I did any bad things in the past?"
And my answer to her was, "Of course no, why?"
Amanda then said, "Then, how come I always feel that 'someone' is following me?"
This really shocked me and my immediate reaction was, "What! Somebody is following you? When? Who? Was it in school?"

Amanda's answer really made me feel creepy, "Just now, when I follow you to toilet. I sense that 'someone' if tailing me."
Then I asked again, "Do you feel the same during the day? How about in school? How about when you are in Grandma's house? Since when you have this kind of feeling?"

She answered, "It only happens when the sky turns dark. Like during night time, or when heavy rain."
"This happened for quite sometimes already, somewhere in August but I didn't tell you."

My creepy feeling made me uneasy and the first thing come to my mind was "GHOST". You know it's still Ghost month. Though today is the last day of that month.

I remembered the night before Amanda asked me this question, she woke up in the middle of the night and showed some strange behavior and unfamiliar gaze.
I tried to call her name, but she was not responding. Then I quickly patted her face lightly to try to "wake" her up.

Now, when I reflect back the scene, it is still eerie.

I don't know about you, but I truly believe the existence of Ghost. I will bring her to a temple this weekend. Maybe she had accidentally offended those "dirty stuff".

10 questions you should ask to yourself

2009-09-18T09:37:00.002+08:00

"What Really Makes You Tick?"

Be all you can be, but it's not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it's hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So we're all pelted with problems. Honestly it shouldn't even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can't teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?
The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?
Today's generation has taken another level of redefining 'self', or at least that's what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it's the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn't appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What's the bright side in all of this?
With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it's a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I'm doing?
There's always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt and whatnot. It doesn't take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we'll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?
Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you'll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?
It's an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?
So maybe I don't have an answer to that, but that doesn't mean I can't try it, though. Whether you shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?
I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it's more on how badly you really need it. I'd like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?
What motivates you? It's an answer you have to find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It's not like you can't have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that's it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?
So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you have to undergo, but it's something that you really want.

How to Gain a Shapely Waist through Yoga

2009-09-18T09:18:00.002+08:00

The size of the waist is an indication of overall fitness for many people. Most health experts agree that a smaller waist is healthier than a big one. The reasoning behind this is that increases in fat around the waist usually result in increased health risks such as diabetes, high cholesterol and blood pressure.

In evolutionary and biological terms, a small waist signifies youth and vitality. But doing endless workouts of crunches alone will not allow you to achieve that Venus-like waist of your dreams. You will need to supplement specific waist-orientated exercises with ones from various disciplines.

Specifically you will need to work the inner girdle of muscles - commonly known as the core muscles - with slow abdominal exercises that work very deep into these muscle groups.

While usually associated with building flexibility, some specific exercises from yoga-based workouts also target the underlying core muscles around the waist.

Sharing is loving, loving is sharing

2009-09-17T19:06:00.004+08:00

Talking is one way to share thoughts and feelings between partners. Research has shown that women actually talk more than men, in fact about three times more in terms of the number of words.

This fact does not excuse men to from not talk. It is the men who “clam up” and refuse to talk. There are also cases where men who do more talking than women, just as there are cases where it is the women who talk a lot as well as those women who do not wish to talk a lot. There is actually no clear cut or fool proof way to judge who should do more of the talking or who should do less. It is primarily not about gender but about the individual themselves.

Communication is a vital part of any relationship. Openness and honesty is a key ingredient to maintaining a kind of memorable relationship that is mutually loving and emotionally comfortable.

The following are tips and possible activities one can do to get yourself or your partner to talk his/her heart out, and share voluntarily any fears and insecurities that either feels. Conversation helps partners form a solid bond that will not be easily eroded. This is vital especially in your effort to saving a marriage.

Ask and you shall receive

The best and simplest way to get a person to talk is by asking a question. It is best if the partner asks his/her partner how the day went or how they feel.

Often it is best that partners ask each these questions after hours they have been apart most of the day; after work or after a long business trip, etc. But do not forget it is also important to ask sincerely looking straight into their eyes. Ask how he or she is feeling or has he/she experienced something they want to share? Sometimes the partner may not want to talk. Relax, let it be and be patient. Relationships are nurtured by respecting another’s decision - everything has its own proper time and place. Do not force it.

Let him or her finish

A very annoying habit some partners have is finishing the other partner’s sentences. Though you may have good intentions, when you think you are helping, the fact is – doing so creates the impression that the partner is getting impatient with the verbally challenged approach to sentence construction. The partner being corrected could either find this act rude.

Go with the flow. Trust your partner’s judgment and verbal prowess. He or she will thank you for it in the long run.

Stop, look and listen

The most important advice anyone could receive is irrelevant if the one receiving the advice is not listening. They key to communication is in listening just as much as it is in the talking.

One partner sometimes gets the other to talk by simply listening intently to what the other is saying. This gives the impression that what the other is saying is important. Verbal signals are just as important as non-verbal ones. Active listening is a good practice any time. It breaks down barriers and puts down any or all reservations one partner may have. But do not just listen, value what the other partner is saying. All it really takes is an ear and a heart to validate another’s existence.

In summary, fears and insecurities are a part of everyone’s psyche. All one has to do is to share it in order to lighten any emotional load he or she may be carrying. But it is also similarly important that the one it is being shared with is listening and genuinely cares what the other is talking about. Sharing makes everyone human and humane. And it is a valuable gift that both women and men must cherish.

Crepes recipe

2009-09-17T18:50:00.003+08:00

Ingredients:

4 egg whites.
1 cup of all-purpose flour.
1 cup of milk.
1 tablespoon of powdered sugar.
1 teaspoon of baking powder.
Pinch of salt.
Preparation Instructions:

In a bowl, sift together all of the dry ingredients, then make a well in the middle.

In a different bowl, beat the egg whites; then add the remaining liquid ingredients.

Mix the contents of the two bowls together thoroughly.

Lightly coat a frying pan or skillet with cooking oil. Heat the pan over medium-high.

Pour enough batter into the pan to make one crepe.

Cook, turning once when browned on the bottom.

Meet My Girls

2009-09-17T18:27:00.002+08:00

Time really flies. Compare these photos with the one on the sidebar, the girls have grown up a lot. And.. I must have grown older as well... how reluctant...

Is bathroom mold bothering you?

2009-09-04T17:30:00.001+08:00

Mold is a type of fungus that thrives on moisture. You can basically find molds anywhere, indoor and outdoor when there is moisture. Bathroom mold is a common problem in almost every household.

Bathroom molds appear as greenish or blackish patches on surfaces and walls. Bathroom provides an ideal breeding ground for mold for the fact that it is almost impossible to ensure complete dryness in bathroom. Besides that, soap scum and our body oil become the good source to feed molds.

Bathroom mold creates great hazards to our health. Exposure to bathroom mold can trigger allergic symptoms like sneezing, runny or stuffy nose, coughing, irritated eye and throat, skin rashes, etc. Certain molds can even cause asthma attack to people who are sensitive to mold spores. Therefore, bathroom mold removal and prevention are vital to ensure healthy living environment.

Bathroom mold can be easily detected by its appearance as greenish / blackish patches. Sometimes, strong musty odors do indicate the presence of hidden mold behind or inside the walls. When mold is detected, you need to act immediately to clean and stop the mold from spreading.

Make sure you put on protective gears like goggles, face mask and long rubber gloves when dealing with mold. Do not touch mold with your bare hands, they are poisonous. Examine the severity of the mold infestation. You could probably cleaning the mold yourself if the infected area is less than 10 square feet and the contamination is not serious.

Use detergent and water to brush off the surface mold. White vinegar is also helpful to remove stubborn mold stain and mold smells. Always allow the areas to dry completely after the cleaning. The key to mold control is to control the moisture level. Next, you may want to do a regular vinegar rinse for the bathroom walls to prevent mold from growing.

習慣，就是時間累積而來的一種動作

2009-09-04T15:59:00.005+08:00

早上，我總是走進7-eleven。

走了走，東選西選，還是選回了每天吃的三明治。

進到辦公室坐下後，總是開了機收信，然後放歌，

看了看，上選下選，還是聽起了那首最愛聽的。

開始寫程式前，總是洗了洗杯子走近飲水機，

看著瓶瓶罐罐，最後還是拿了一包就走。

人生總有很多的選擇。

每天要面對的選擇，很多。

吃什麼，做什麼，玩什麼，看什麼....

雖然你每天都在做選擇。

不過，總是...總是...會選回你每次選的那個。

因為習慣。

習慣，是時間累積而來的一種動作。

情人間常說：「我對你不再有愛，都變成了習慣了。」

其實，習慣並沒有什麼不好。

它讓你自然的去做。

自然的去想他，自然的去愛他。

當你已經不覺得自己在付出時，

也許你覺得，你己開始習慣，有他陪伴在你的生命中，

那才是真的愛。

有什麼不好？

我一直認為

很多事情開始要一個人獨自去做時

就失去它的意義：

當習慣了兩個人一起吃飯
習慣了兩個人一起看書
習慣了兩個人一起工作
習慣了兩個人一起散步
習慣了兩個人一起回家
習慣了兩個人一起聊天
習慣了兩個人一起商量事情
習慣了兩個人一起發呆
習慣了兩個人一起喝咖啡
習慣了兩個人一起..........

開始一個人

很多快樂都不再了...

請珍惜你身邊所有

把握任何一個美麗的機會

失去了就不再了...

現在請你回想一下

你習慣的那個人，是不是讓你感覺很熟悉，就像家人一樣？

這種感覺，不是那麼容易就可以擁有的，應該好好的珍惜。

也許有天你失去了，才會明白這個人，在你的心理是佔了很大的位置。

好緣份是很神奇的東西，它只送給用心去經營的人。

最近你是否不再那麼用心，去關心或態度冷淡了嗎???

趕快去抓住你那個熟悉的人吧，必竟你們曾經走過那一段，不是嗎？

Health Story

2009-09-03T08:16:00.005+08:00

I guess emotion does make a big difference on a person health. Live happily and let
go of emotional burdens.

________________________________

A forwarded e-mail for your reading.

"I would like to share with you an actual but very sad occurrence which I hope may get you guys to ponder over what constitutes anxieties, extremities and unnecessary over reactions. A long story... but worth reading for lessons learned.... you may want to pass on to others.

A friend's father who is a retiree in his mid-60s, is perfectly healthy looking and behaving normal, plays his round of golf each Sunday, does a fair bit of gardening, keeps himself busy the rest of his time helping his son's (my friend's) little retail business, and goes on
tour/trips every now and then ......

He was persuaded by his daughters and other well-wishers to go for his medical checkup which he had last done before retirement some 10 years ago. He didn't see the need to do it as he was feeling perfectly ok and healthy. Of course he didn't want to spend the money. After persistent persuasion from his family he finally gave in (his daughters agreed to foot the bill).

First his blood test revealed a total cholesterol count well above the 5.2 threshold (in fact close to 6). The doctor advised that he went for his stressed ECG test.

Again he had to be persistently persuaded to go thru that test, which he did. And it revealed some abnormality with his heart.

Now the doctor advised that he went thru angiogram. He resisted again and again after much pestering he subscribed to that invasive test.....which revealed three (3) blockages in his heart. And the doctor advised he went thru angioplasty.

This time he was adamant not to go any further. But it was like the end of the world for his family members who were all highly educated people with learned common sense. They went thru the highest mountains and deepest oceans to convince the old man to go thru angioplasty.

The surgery was successful. And he was given a clean bill of health. His heart is revitalized and cleared of all blockages. After returning home from the hospital, his family (especially his daughters) put him on a "healthy" diet. Strictly no meat....only vegetables and fruits, with perhaps an occasional dish of steamed fish.... no oil.

The result.... the poor old man became weaker, couldn't drive his golf ball the distance he used to, got tired easily when he did his gardening, lost a lot of weight (which everyone was happy because they see him getting healthier that way), went to bed unusually early ('cause he got tired sitting up late watching the sports channels).... in a nutshell he actually got weaker and probably suffering from mal-nutrition!

Hardly 2 months after the angioplasty he passed away, supposedly from heart complications.. All of a sudden, a few family doctor friends were able to offer explanations. One of them had this to say...

Heart blockages do not happen overnight. They are built up over time. And the body has somehow gotten used to the blockages. As long as the effects of the blockages are not life-threatening, it may be best to leave them alone. Maybe it is better not to know about this. For most men at that advanced age, blockage is common and some may be even worse. Not knowing it has one clear advantage. There won't be any STRESS imposed on the person.

And STRESS is the killer.

Some may not respond well with angioplasty. With the heart cleared of its blockages, the blood flow will be unrestricted. But sometimes the body (even the heart may not be used to this new revitalized condition) may not know how to cope with it quick enough. Coupled with a "healthy" diet of just fruits and vegetables which are not the usual and normal intake of this person, may and can do further damage.

So it's a combination of all these that could have killed this poor old man who was, just 2 months before, a healthy bubbly man living a perfectly normal STRESS-FREE retired life.

Today my friend and his siblings all regretted what they had done to their father.

Moral of the story is not to be extreme and take everything in life in its stride and with moderation.

One more thing.... my family doctor, age late 40s, hardly takes meat, a good sportsman, has a total cholesterol count of 6.

Some times it's in the genes. Like my 90 year-old mother-in-law who lives by herself, does her own marketing, cooks her own food, never eats any meat that is not fat all her life, hates lean meat, cholesterol so bloody high ......and she is still kicking and so mentally alert. One thing....she's got NO STRESS.

She only gives STRESS to all others around her. That's probably why she's living alone by herself.

So my friends... Don't get paranoid and stressed up for nothing!!! "

KL Taxi Driver....Girl please read this!!!!

2009-09-03T08:07:00.001+08:00

Please take a few minutes to read this and share this with every female you know and care about.

On Saturday, 4th July 2009 at 6:45pm my sister boarded a taxi at the Wangsa Maju LRT to return home. At the end of the road, the taxi driver stopped to pick up another male passenger who seemed to be going off the same direction. Well, my sister didn't suspect anything funny as they looked genuine, and he was going her direction and she was in a hurry.

Little did she suspect that she was in for a huge trauma! But when she asked the taxi driver to turn into the junction where she lives, the driver pretended to miss it and the male passenger said that since they were already nearer to his place, why not send him off first and the driver politely asked my sister if that's ok and she thought she was doing a good deed!

As soon as they got to the end of the housing area next to the big walls of the Academy TV3, the male passenger, locked all the doors and leapt to the back and held a knife at her throat and forced her to bend her head down - she had to give up her jewelry, and the $200 cash she had. Not satisfied with only that much, they threatened for more so they drove off to Maybank Jln Setapak and took out everything she had that was around 7:30pm.

The driver returned the card after clearing the account! Then they drove off to the back area of Tasik Titiwangsa and dropped her off there. Left her with only $10 and ask her to take another taxi home! My sister had to walk a long way back to the main road to get help and she is really traumatised by all these.

Later at the police station we found out that she was victim #3 that same day! Let's remind everyone we know, as it could easily happen to us too or to anyone we care about.

The lesson to be learnt here:
1.. always check the plate # BEFORE you board a taxi.
2. always check the other things that a taxi should have - the driver's ID, the inside number etc, etc.
3. NEVER allow the driver to pick up another passenger - No matter what! If they do, get off and just pay the man.
4. avoid taking the taxi alone, if you can.
5. be extra careful if it is after office hours.

Note : Luckily the victim was not raped and/or killed as well, as in this case they were just after her jewelery and money.

LIFEBOOK 2009

2009-09-03T07:52:00.001+08:00

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants, and eat less food that is manufactured in plants
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy
5. Make time for prayer
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2008
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day ---- and while you walk, smile

Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do ; keep your limits
14. Don't take yourself so seriously ; no one else does
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Community:

25. Call your family often
26. Each day give something good to others
27. Forgive everyone for everything
28. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day
30. What other people think of you is none of your business
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

32. Do the right things
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
34. GOD heals everything
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
37. The best is yet to come
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least :

40. Share this with everyone you care about.

只有十句话，我却看了十分钟

2009-09-03T07:47:00.003+08:00

第一句

如果我们之间有1000步的距离

你只要跨出第1步

我就会朝你的方向走其余的999步

第二句

通常愿意留下来跟你争吵的人

才是真正爱你的人

第三句

付出真心才会得到真心

却也可能伤得彻底

保持距离就能保护自己

却也注定永远寂寞

第四句

有时候不是对方不在乎你

而是你把对方看得太重

第五句

朋友就是把你看透了还能喜欢你的人

第六句

就算是believe 中间也藏了一个lie

第七句

真正的好朋友

并不是在一起就有聊不完的话题

而是在一起就算不说话

也不会感到尴尬

第八句

没有一百分的另一半

只有五十分的两个人

第九句

为你的难过而快乐的是敌人

为你的快乐而快乐的是朋友

为你的难过而难过的

就是那些该放进心里的人

第十句

冷漠有时候并不是无情

只是一种避免被伤害的工具

PS: 本人觉得这十句话很有深度，很有意思。认真去思考，你会得到意想不到的收获。

When you don't have a choice

2009-08-31T14:05:00.002+08:00

What would you do when you don't have a choice?

I know better than anyone else, it is not the best option. I can't sacrifice the innocent. But I was left with no choice, what else can I do.

I am not sure whether I will regret it in future, but for the time being, this is the best I can do. Hope everything will be fine.

Have you found yourself in the same situation like mine, left with no choice. Mind to share with me your story?

Pay RM40 to get RM50 worth of voucher

2009-07-22T15:56:00.003+08:00

A friend of mine has won some shopping vouchers from a contest, amounting to RM500. He is willing to sell them off at 20% discount as he needs cash urgently for emergency use. I am helping him to pass on the news / information.

Here are the details:

1.Vouchers come in 10 pieces of RM50 each.
2. Expiry date: 11-July-2010
3. Vouchers are redeemable / exchangeable for goods at all
- Metrojaya Departmental Stores
- MJ Concept Stores
- Reject Shop
- bb MAXX
- East India Company
- Somerset Bay
- Cape Cod
- Living Quarters, and
- Laura Ashley

You can buy the vouchers separately, each at 20% discount. You pay RM40 for a shopping voucher worth RM50.

Let a comment here if you are interested. I can help to arrange.

Amazing Watermelon Art Festival

2009-07-16T08:12:00.006+08:00

Isn't it amazing? These artists have transformed the ordinary plain watermelons into some magnificent art pieces. Incredibly beautiful...

(Image credit to Fropki.com)

Stop The Killing Of Seals

2009-07-14T17:40:00.006+08:00

Stop The Killing Of Seals

A letter from Seals to human

Lately, the country of Noorway and Canada have introduce a new sort of tourism activity. It is called "hunting" sport. They hunt for baby seals by killing these poor baby seals with some kind of poles.

Do you see this a sport?

Can you imagine yourself playing this sport?

Why must we be the victims?

We hope you can do something about this!

Please stop this.

Help us please. We are so harmless and defenceless, we can't even strike back.

I know it's upsetting and heartbreaking looking at these images, we feel the sorrow too...!! We are being murdered brutally by these sport people and it's happening RIGHT NOW...!!!

Who are them to decide our fate? Who gives them the right to destroy us?

What sort of sport is this? We are so harmless, never hurt anyone!

We were just swimming around without disturbing anybody, and now we are dead...!!

Please save us, stop them from killing us!

I beg you not to ignore these images! Doing so makes you guilty!

Please help us...!!

Please stand by us, don't leave us alone!

Let the world leaders know about these cruel murderers...

谁要是娶这种妻子就不配做男人！

2009-07-09T11:55:00.002+08:00

媳妇说："煮淡一点你就嫌没有味道，现在煮咸一点你却说咽不下。你究竟怎想怎么样？"

母亲一见儿子回来，二话不说便把饭菜往嘴里送。

她怒瞪他一眼。他试了一口，马上吐出来，儿子说："我不是说过了吗，妈有病不能吃太咸！"

"那好！妈是你的，以后由你来煮！"媳妇怒气冲冲地回房。

儿子无奈地轻叹一声，然后对母亲说："妈，别吃了，我去煮个面给你？"

"仔，你是不是有话想跟妈说，是就说好了，别憋在心里！"

"妈，公司下个月升我职，我会很忙，至于老婆，她说很想出来工作，所以......"

母亲马上意识到儿子的意思："仔，不要送妈去老人院。"声音似乎在哀求。

儿子沉默片刻，他是在寻找更好的理由。 "妈，其实老人院并没有甚么不好？知道老婆一但工作，一定没有时间好好服侍。老人院有吃有住有人服侍照顾，不是比在家里好得多吗？"

"可是，阿财叔他......"

洗了澡，草草吃了一碗方便面，儿子便到书房去。他茫然地伫立于窗前，有些犹豫不决。母亲年轻便守寡，含辛茹苦将他抚养成人，供他出国读书。但她从不用年轻时的牺牲当作要胁他孝顺的筹码，反而是妻子以婚姻要胁他！真的要让母亲住老人院吗？他问自己，他有些不忍。

"可以陪你下半世的人是你老婆，难道是你妈吗？"阿财叔的儿子总是这样提醒他。

"你妈都这么老了，好命的话可以活多几年，为何不趁这几年好好孝顺她呢？树欲静而风不息，子欲养而亲不在啊！"亲戚总是这样劝他。

儿子不敢再想下去，深怕自己真的会改变初衷。

晚，太阳收敛起灼热的金光，躲在山后憩息。一间建在郊外山岗的一座贵族老人院。

是的，钱用得越多，儿子才心安理得。当儿子领着母亲步入大厅时，崭新的电视机，42英寸的荧幕正播放着一部喜剧，但观众一点笑声也没有。

几个衣着一样，发型一样的老妪歪歪斜斜地坐在发沙上，神情呆滞而落寞。有个老人在自言自语，有个正缓缓弯下腰，想去捡掉在地上的一块饼干吃。儿子知道母亲喜欢光亮，所以为她选了一间阳光充足的房间。从窗口望出去，树荫下，一片芳草如茵。几名护士推着坐在轮椅的老者在夕阳下散步，四周悄然寂静得令人心酸。纵是夕阳无限好，毕竟已到了黄昏，他心中低低叹息。

"妈，我......我要走了！"母亲只能点头。他走时，母亲频频挥手，她张着没有牙的嘴，苍白干燥的咀唇在嗫嚅着，一副欲语还休的样子。儿子这才注意到母亲银灰色的头发，深陷的眼窝以及打着细褶的皱脸。母亲，真的老了！

他霍然记起一则儿时旧事。那年他才6岁，母亲有事回乡，不便携他同行，于是把他寄住在阿财叔家几天。母亲临走时，他惊恐地抱着母亲的腿不肯放，伤心大声号哭道："妈妈不要丢下我！妈妈不要走！" 最后母亲没有丢下他。他连忙离开房间，顺手把门关上，不敢回头，深恐那记忆像鬼魅似地追缠而来。

他回到家，妻子与岳母正疯狂的把母亲房里的一切扔个不亦乐乎。身高3英寸的奖杯──那是他小学作文比赛《我的母亲》第1名的胜利品！华英字典──那是母亲整个月省吃省用所买给他的第1份生日礼物！还有母亲临睡前要擦的风湿油，没有他为她擦，带去老人院又有甚么意义呢？

"够了，别再扔了！"儿子怒吼道。

"这么多垃圾，不把它扔掉，怎么放得下我的东西。" 岳母没好气地说。

"就是嘛！你赶快把你妈那张烂床给抬出去，我明天要为我妈添张新的！"

一堆童年的照片展现在儿子眼前，那是母亲带他到动物园和游乐园拍的照片。

"它们是我妈的财产，一样也不能丢！"

"你这算甚态度？对我妈这么大声，我要你向我妈道歉！" (楼主注：这算什么儿子，把自己的母亲送到养老院，然后把岳母接来住，要就一起去送，要就留自己的母亲）

"我娶你就要爱你的母亲，为甚么？嫁给我就不能爱我的母亲？"

雨后的黑夜分外冷寂，街道萧瑟，行人车辆格外稀少。一辆宝马在路上飞驰，频频闯红灯，陷黄格，呼一声又飞驰而过。那辆轿车一路奔往山岗上的那间老人院，停车直奔上楼，推开母亲卧房的门。他幽灵似地站着，母亲正抚摸着风湿痛的双腿低泣。她见到儿子手中正拿着那瓶风湿油，显然感到安慰的说："妈忘了带，幸好你拿来！"他走到母亲身边，跪了下来。 "很晚了，妈自己擦可以了，你明天还要上班，回去吧！"

他嗫嚅片刻，终于忍不住啜泣道："妈，对不起，请原谅我！我们回家去吧！"

～～后语～～

随着自己愈长大，看着父母亲脸庞从年轻变憔悴，头发从乌丝变白发,动作从迅捷变缓慢，多心疼！父母亲总是将最好、最宝贵的留给我们，像蜡烛不停的燃烧自己，照亮孩子！而我呢？有没有腾出一个空间给我的父母，或者只是在当我需要停泊岸时，才会想起他们......

其实父母亲要的真的不多，只是一句随意的问候「爸、妈，你们今天好吗？」随意买的宵夜，煮一顿再普通不过的晚餐，睡前帮他们盖盖被子，天冷帮他们添衣服、戴手套....都能让他们高兴温馨很久。有时，我常在想：我希望我的子女以后如何对我。那现在，我有没有如此对待我的父母？我相信，人是环环相扣的；现在，你如何对待你的父母；以后，你的子女就如何待你。

朋友，人世间最难报的就是父母恩，愿我们都能：以反哺之心奉敬父母，以感恩之心孝顺父母！

～共勉之～

生命不要求我们成为最好的，只要求我们作最大的努力！

老人安养院墙上发现的一篇文章

孩子！当你还很小的时候，我花了很多时间，教你慢慢用汤匙、用筷子吃东西。教你系鞋带、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳头发、拧鼻涕。这些和你在一起的点点滴滴，是多么的令我怀念不已。所以，当我想不起来，接不上话时，请给我一点时间，等我一下，让我再想一想......极可能最后连要说什么，我也一并忘记。孩子！你忘记我们练习了好几百回，才学会的第一首娃娃歌吗？是否还记得每天总要我绞尽脑汁，去回答不知道你从哪里冒出来的吗？所以，当我重复又重复说着老掉牙的故事，哼着我孩提时代的儿歌时，体谅我。让我继续沉醉在这些回忆中吧！切望你，也能陪着我闲话家常吧！孩子，现在我常忘了扣扣子、系鞋带。吃饭时，会弄脏衣服，梳头发时手还会不停的抖，不要催促我，要对我多一点耐心和温柔，只要有你在一起，就会有很多的温暖涌上心头。

孩子！如今，我的脚站也站不稳，走也走不动。所以，请你紧紧的握着我的手，陪着我，慢慢的。就像当年一样，我带着你一步一步地走。

若为人子女也不懂得如何体谅他们，那他们便只能于痛苦中渡过余生，黑暗中逝去......

请把此文章转发给您的朋友，让他们知道家人才是最重要的。爱情可以重新再找寻，但父母一生却只有一个，要珍惜、珍重。

如果此贴让你感动，如果你是一个孝顺有良知的人，如果你想老爸老妈有个幸福的晚年就转帖吧。祝转帖的朋友的父母--身体健康，长命百岁，一生平安！！！！！！

Have a Good Laugh

2009-07-09T11:54:00.001+08:00

傳說
...........
在晚上
12 點整，
穿著黑色內衣，
站在鏡子前；
對著胸部猛打 30 下並且鬼叫，
你的胸部最後將會 ……

黑青

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每次看妳穿絲襪的時候 ……
我的心中都會有一種無法言喻的感覺，
那就是 ……

蘿蔔還包保鮮膜咧！

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小明上完廁所回到教室跟老師說：廁所有好多螞蟻，
老師忽然想用 ant 這個單字想測試小明：螞蟻怎麼說？
小明一臉茫然 ....... 說：螞蟻牠 ………… 什麼也沒說 …

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醜男拿著 99 朵玫瑰獻給漂亮的女同事：嫁給我吧！我愛妳！
女：算了吧！我對你沒感覺。
男：我那一點不好，我改。
女：你到底喜歡我哪點？我改

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有一天，一隻小蒼蠅跟牠的爸媽一起去吃午餐。
小蒼蠅：為什麼我們要吃屎？
蒼蠅媽媽：我的笨兒子，吃飯時不要說那麼噁心的話。

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某天，小蛇很慌張的滑行到大蛇的旁邊說：大蛇哥！我們身上有沒有毒？
大蛇：小蛇你問這個幹嘛？
小蛇：因 ………………… . 因為 ............... 我剛剛咬到了自己的舌頭！

微笑給你好心情 !!

感冒: 多喝水卻很少尿尿; 一定要要注意

2009-07-09T11:19:00.002+08:00

女生要注意，男生要給你的女伴看！身體健康很重要！

希望大家都能注意自己身體細微的變化!如果感冒多喝水卻很少尿尿一定要有警覺心，因為腎臟的神經很大條很粗心不會警告你，事業誠可貴健康價更高！

俗話說經一事長一智，不過我寧可沒經歷這件事，不論你多忙，請你看完這個正在發生的事.....

〝感冒〞讓我的一個好同事(其實可以說是好朋友)，現年26歲，在耶誕節那天住進醫院的加護病房直到今天 (12/28)都沒出來。

她，一個花樣年華的女孩子，才26歲，前幾天不舒服，講話有鼻音，告訴我們她應該感冒了，她媽媽叫她去看醫生，她說她自已多喝開水就好了，過了兩天,實在很不舒服才去看醫生，開始服葯，起初有好一點，但是她告訴媽媽每天喝很多水，可是排尿很少，也沒在意，但是很容易疲倦，這樣大約過了三四天，她在12/22還活蹦亂跳的和我們一起參加公司尾牙，12/23還和朋友一起出外遊玩。

12/24早上就沒起床過一直在睡覺,她媽媽問她，她說應該是〝感冒〞很累要睡覺就這樣，一直到12/25早上她媽媽說，已經睡一整天了該起來看看吃點東西服葯，結果她才發覺自已根本站不住，而且腹痛緊急送往醫院，直接送入加護病房檢查原因，原先醫院推測是腹膜炎要緊急動手術，但經過胃腸科主治醫生初步檢查覺得不像，就去照超音波，發覺胃腸根本沒事，這才又找了婦產科醫生會診，又去照超音波，結果一樣檢查不出什麼問題。

過一夜12/26早上，她全身酸痛躺不住，坐著呼吸急促,緊急戴氧氣罩，醫院發覺她根本沒排過尿，這才找了腎臟科醫生會診，腎臟科醫生一檢查，從她臉上出現二個紅點，及一直沒排尿，推測是急性敗血症引發急性腎衰竭，但還不能確定，所以抽血去檢驗，另外，培養她體內的細菌，看是哪一種細菌這樣厲害，但是抽血檢驗要下午才會有結果，培養細菌要三天才會有結果，腎臟科醫師推測是一種名為葛蘭氏，（我不知道字對不對，這個譯音是來自醫生口中）細菌的頑強細菌進入血液中直接破壞血小板才會是目前的病狀，建議醫院使用專門針對葛蘭氏細菌的抗生素為她注射，(一直到此時醫院還是用一般的抗生素注射，因為沒查出病因，無法對症下葯！)，但是，一直到12/26中午，我去加護病房看她時，剛好遇到腎臟科醫師門診完來看她，但我已看到手肘靠著床邊的部份已立即出現了淤血且變黑，因為無法排尿而產生的水腫，這位醫師隨即問了我的身份後，要找她的父母說明病情，我及她的父母才在這位好心的醫師詳細解說下，瞭解她的病況己到了危及生命的階段，急性敗血症己經引發了第一項併發症──急性腎衰竭，目前臉上的紅點及手肘的淤血都是急性敗血症的徵兆，目前已出現了呼吸急促的病狀，接下來可能會引發腦部缺氧而無法呼吸！正式宣佈有三天的危險期，並且立即安排洗腎，清除腎臟內的積水。

今天12/27中午我眼看她，加護病房內的她插入鼻管，管內都是血，我還要強忍著眼淚，告訴她，嗨！今天看起來氣色好多了，躺著沒問題、可以睡的著就好了，明後天開始好好補補又可以一起上班了，出去問了她媽媽，才知道今早併發了胃出血，緊急插管抽血 ......... 她媽媽對著我一直掉眼淚說：我祇要她能好，我怎樣都沒關係...

我要奉勸各位好朋友一些事，這是那位好心醫生的提醒：

每天在我們身邊都有很多細菌，〝感冒〞祇是你的身體提醒你，免疫系統受到傷害，有任何症狀都要一五一十告訴醫生，好讓醫生能研判確實的病情！

另外，建議女性朋友們：

上洗手間前後都要洗手！以免細菌經由尿道進入身體破壞我們的血液組織，引發如此嚴重後果，還有不要諱疾忌醫！畢竟，生命是我們自己的！

JUST INSPIRATIONAL - The Smiling Crippled Girl

2009-06-30T08:54:00.002+08:00

If this doesn't touch you and move you, I don't know what will. The power of the human spirit is shown at its mightiest by this one little girl. I salute her.

The smiling crippled girl

Qian HongYan lost her legs in an accident

Her family in China are poor and couldn't afford prosthetic legs, so she uses a basketball to help her move.
Qian uses two wooden props to drag herself, and never complains, even though she has worn through six basketballs.

She attends her class

She always smiles

Always smiling

Always cheerful, always positive

She is now able to afford a pair of prosthetic legs

Smile always

Be grateful with what you have.

How to use simple foods in the most natural way to fight illnesses and maintain good health

2009-06-04T18:31:00.003+08:00

The human body has the power to heal itself. The immune system has a self-defence mechanism to block and destroy bacteria or viruses that invade our bodies, while the self-healing mechanism will get us back on the road to recovery. When you have a cold and take medicine, the medication may kill the virus but your immune system will not fully function, and its efficiency will decrease. As a result, your body will be more vulnerable to germs.

Here are the guidelines to strengthen the immune system:

1. Have at least three bowel movements a day.

Other health experts may advise one bowel movement a day, but that's not enough. You need three to four bowel movements a day in order to excrete all the accumulated faeces from your intestine. Your liver will not be overburdened and it also helps reduce cholesterol in your body.

2. Drink at least three glasses of fruit or vegetable smoothies each day.

This is a way to ingest enough phytochemicals to strengthen the body's cells and immune system. Use not only the flesh, but also the skin and seeds of fruits and vegetables to make smoothies, as they are rich in phytochemicals. Most of the fruit seeds have small amounts of cyanide which kill bacteria and viruses without damaging the body.

Actually the recommended smoothie diet is six glasses a day, two in the morning, one before lunch, two more in the afternoon, and one more before dinner.
However, if that's too much, you may start with three glasses a day. Use a high powered blender (at least three horsepower) as it can release phytochemicals from the fibre. It's best to choose sour fruits like green or red apples, grapes, pineapples, kiwi and lime.

3. Sunbathe 30 minutes daily.

We often hear that the Sun's UV rays will damage our skin, and many people apply sunblock before going out.

But do you know that the UV rays will help convert cholesterol underneath the skin into vitamin A which helps moisten the skin and prevent skin cancer, and also vitamin D that helps prevent colds, osteoporosis, and certain kinds of cancer.

Therefore, use the Sun. Expose yourself to sunlight about one-half hour a day, at noon or another appropriate time based on your local climate. The SUN will make you healthier.

4. Exercise 30 minutes a day.

Don't exercise for more than 30 minutes. If you go beyond that, your body will be overworked.

If you do it more than half an hour, that will become labour, not exercise. Your heart and your body will be working too hard.

5. Shower with hot, then cold water.

Try an alternating cold and hot water shower: Three minutes of hot water followed by 30 seconds of cold water, then repeat twice more. This process will bring a rush of blood and energy to your body. It helps increase your immune system, blood circulation, and metabolism.

6. Drink a lot of water, in the correct way.

How much water you need to drink each day depends on your specific situation. If your office is air-conditioned, drinking six glasses of water a day is enough. If your work involves lots of walking, you have to drink 8-10 glasses a day. If you work under the hot sun, then 10-12 glasses of water are required.

The way you drink is also important. The correct way is to sip it little by little, to give your body cells time to absorb the water. If you drink the whole glass down at once, your cells can't absorb it all, and the water will be excreted as urine.

7. Eat according to your blood type.

Your blood type determines what you should eat. Eating the wrong foods will make you sick.

People with blood type O have to eat a certain amount of meat. If they eat only vegetables for a long time, their body won't absorb all the substances they need to strengthen their immune system. The recommended diet for this group is 75% vegetables, 10% fruits, 10% meat, seafood and goat's milk (avoid cow's milk), and 5% grains.

People with blood type A, however should avoid milk and meat, while increasing grains and fruits.

People with blood type B should also avoid meat, while those with blood type AB should avoid chicken and beef.

8. Eat according to your biological clock.

Every human being has a biological clock that tells us when to eat, sleep, and wake up. If you don't follow your biological clock, the organs will lose their balance. Toxins and wastes won't be excreted from your body, and soon you'll get sick.

The biological clock is divided into three phases.

From 4am to noon is the time for bowel movements, so in the morning you should eat foods with lots of fibre. Fruit and vegetable smoothies are recommended.

From noon to 8pm, your body will absorb food so lunch is the most important meal. A vegetable salad with grains is recommended. Fish or boiled eggs can be added to your lunch. Avoid meat at dinner as the amino acids in the meat will disturb your sleep. Try to finish dinner by 6pm.

From 8pm to 4am, the nutrients and energy from food will be distributed throughout your body organs. The golden time for your sleep is between 10pm and 2am, as your immune and self-healing system will function at its best.

What to do when you are trapped in a lift?

2009-06-03T18:42:00.003+08:00

We never know when and where accidents will happen to us OR people around us. Read on and hope this piece of information may help any of us when things do happen to ourselves, our friends and our loved ones.

One day, while in a lift, it suddenly broke down and it was falling from level 13 in a fast speed. Fortunately, I remembered watching a TV program that taught you must quickly press all the buttons for all the levels. Finally, the lift stopped at the 5th level.

When you are facing life and death situations, whatever decisions or actions you make decides your survival. If you are caught in a lift breakdown, first thought in mind may be 'waiting to die'...

But after reading below, things will definitely be different the next time you are caught in a lift.

First – Quickly press all the different levels of buttons in the lift.

Second – Hold on tight to the handle (if there is any).

Third – Lean your back and head against the wall forming a straight line.

Fourth – Bend your knees

Reason – When the lift falls, you will not know when it will hit the ground, and it may result in whole body bone fracture.

Point 1 – When the emergency electricity supply is being activated, it will stop the lift from falling further.

Point 2 – It is to support your position and prevent you from falling or getting hurt when you lost your balance.

Point 3 – Leaning against the wall is to use it as a support for your back/spine as protection.

Point 4 – Ligament is a flexible, connective tissue. It can be attached to the bone part of the activities, but limit the scope of their activities in order to avoid injury. Thus, the impact of fractured bones will be minimised from the severe pressure during fall.

No Space, Leave the Place

2009-06-03T18:22:00.001+08:00

When we visit toilets, bathrooms, hotel rooms, changing rooms, etc., how many of you know for sure that the seemingly ordinary mirror hanging on the wall is a real mirror, or actually a 2-way mirror (i.e., they can see you, but you can't see them)? There have been many cases of people installing 2-way mirrors in female changing rooms.

It is very difficult to positively identify the surface by just looking at it. So, how do we determine with any amount of certainty what type of mirror we are looking at?

Just conduct this simple test:

Place the tip of your fingernail against the reflective surface and if there is a GAP between your fingernail and the image of the nail, then it is a GENUINE mirror.

However, if your fingernail DIRECTLY TOUCHES the image of your nail, then BEWARE, FOR IT IS A 2-WAY MIRROR!

'No Space, Leave the Place' So remember, every time you see a Mirror, do the 'fingernail test.' It doesn't cost you anything.

Toxic mold removal

2009-05-26T17:03:00.001+08:00

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Ladies beware if you love eating chicken wings

2009-04-06T18:50:00.001+08:00

Avoid eating chicken wings frequently - ladies especially; a true story...!

A friend of mine recently had a growth in her womb and she underwent an operation to remove it. The cyst removed was filled with a dark colored blood. She thought that she would be recovered after the surgery but! she was terribly wrong.

A relapse occurred just a few months later. Distressed , she rushed down to her gynecologist for a consultation.

During her consultation, her doctor asked her a question that puzzled her. He ask if she was a frequent consumer of chicken wings and she replied yes wondering as to how, he knew of her eating habits.
You see, the truth is in this modern day and age; chickens are injected with steroids to accelerate their growth so that the needs of this society can be met. This need is none other than the need for food.

Chickens that are injected with steroids are usually given the shot at the neck or the wings. Therefore, it is in these places that the highest concentration of steroids exists.

These steroids have terrifying effects on the body as it accelerates growth..
It has an even more dangerous effect in the presence of female hormones, this leads to women being more prone to the growth of a cyst in the womb. Therefore, I advise the people out there to watch their diets and to lower their frequency of consuming chicken wings!

I rather sleep on the floor

2009-04-06T08:20:00.003+08:00

This morning, you show your black face again complaining the deprive of sleep and blaming me of setting the alarm at 5am to do the bed sheet laundry.

Why must I suffer myself to wake up early at 5am just to do the laundry? You think I like to torture myself? You know we have very limited space in our balcony to dry a queen-size bed sheet. What we can do is to wash it and bring it over to your mom's house to dry. And you are so fussy to stop me from washing the bed sheet overnight and leave it in the washing machine until the next day, saying it's not hygienic. So, what other option I am left with if not to wash it early in the morning. Then you ask, why can't I do it around 6am? Can, of course can if only you don't complain about the water pressure being too low when you take your morning shower. Or else, I will have to pause the process and wait till you are done with your shower before resuming the washing process. By then, do you think we are still leave the house on time at 6.40am? So now, you tell me am I doing all these for fun?

I really feel pressured sleeping next to you. You being so sensitive, would be awaken by a single tiny movement. You know what, I hardly turn my body during my sleep next to you, and this makes my body aches the next morning I wake up. Sometimes I would rather exchange place with the girls to sleep on the floor. That gives me lots of freedom and I can sleep with whatever position I like. But the funny thing is even the girls are reluctant to sleep next to you, as you have scolded them for turning their body too much. I guess we don't deserve that from you. Everyone has the right to turn their body to find the most comfortable position to sleep with. We don't complain about you when you snore, cough, clearing your throat, or turning your body. Why can't you treat us like how we treat you? Please be fair. Otherwise you will end up sleeping alone.

Ok back to the alarm clock. Because sleeping next to you, I have to be very alert with the alarm clock and make sure I stop the alarm the moment it let out the first beep. And still you complain. I wonder didn't I have done enough. I wonder how much more I can take. Or maybe you are fated to sleep alone in your bed.

I think I shall start decorating the second room for the girls and myself...

Do you feel pressure living with your spouse?

2009-04-06T07:48:00.002+08:00

Sometimes, I feel tremendous pressure living with you. And most of the times, when we were in an argument, I'll always be the losing end especially when it comes to money matters. Sometimes I even doubt why you fight so much when in fact I will be the one that fork out the money.

Like the recent case, when I again suggested to seek for Chinese traditional medical treatment for Amanda's stubborn cough. And you like the previous you, again and again you criticize how expensive is the Chinese medicine and how ineffective the Chinese traditional treatment, and how long it will take to cure the sickness with Chinese herbs. Hello, I have told you that I will bear all the treatment fees and what I need from you is your support and your time to fetch us there and probably to have to wait for us. Is that too much to ask from?

Sometimes I even doubt how much care do you have about us besides yourself? Don't you think if someone have been coughing for almost a month now and doesn't seem to recover over the western medicines given by a number of doctors, you should be very worrying by now? What's more, she is just a kid, a 7 years old kid. Don't you worry her cough will eventually turns into asthma? Or you won't give a damn as long as your pocket is not burnt?

What's wrong to try out people's recommendation when there is a fair chance of curing Amanda's stubborn cough? People recommend because they have good experience with Chinese medication. Every Chinese should know that these Chinese herbs are not magic pills that cure illness in a blink. But they treat the illness by curing the root cause which is very important to prevent the illness from coming back again. I wonder how much you understand about Chinese traditional medication?

Sometimes I give up arguing with you when comes to this Chinese medication issue. I rather to trouble my dad and mom or even my brother to fetch us for the treatment than arguing and explaining all this to you. You see how fed up I am with you.

Meet My Girl - Olivia

2009-03-27T18:31:00.000+08:00

Remember sometimes ago I mentioned about writing a post about my youngest daughter - Olivia. So here it goes.

Olivia is the name both hubby and I came out with after watching "She is a Man" DVD. Since both of us couldn't agree with the names suggested by either of us, so eventually settled with Olivia - what a unique and lovely name for her.

Little Olivia was wondering what mommy was doing with the camera and kept asking her to look at the camera. Big sister, Amanda was at the back imitating mommy with an old camera.

Olivia with her super short hair. Most of times people mistakenly thought she is a boy when her hair was short.

I like this pic very much, she is so cute,

Haha... Olivia with her 2-in-1 spectacles. "Mommy, don't disturb me, I am very busy now."
She was busy with her writing - taking down order for us, pretending herself the waitress of a restaurant. Both Amanda and Olivia like to role play, most of the time they play waitress-customer, teacher-student. I guess this is very common among children their age.

When she was done with the order-taking, she posed, I snapped. Sometimes I wonder why a little kid like Olivia will have eye bags like mine, is it inherited or is she not getting enough sleep?

Both Amanda and Olivia celebrating their 5 & 4th birthday. You know what, both the girls and myself were born in the same month of July. So, usually we'll celebrate our birthday together.

Olivia - one of the flower girl for my sister wedding. She looked so gorgeous in her white princess gown. I even put some make-up on her that made her very doll looking.

This is one of the rare photos of her posing nicely. Olivia likes to make funny face whenever she knows you are going to take her picture. She is very different from her sister Amanda who loves to be photo-shot. Amanda is very good at posing with her flashing sweet smile. While Olivia is good at making funny face, she acts very unnatural when comes to photo-taking.

Olivia is now 6 years old and it's her 2nd year in kiddie. She is now very independent and manage to finish her homework all by herself. But one thing, her hand-writing is terrible. So big that I don't believe it's a girl's hand-writing. I think one day I shall scan some of her workbooks and place it here. Haha...

Little Cough-Prone Girl

2009-03-12T15:31:00.006+08:00

Amanda is very prone to cough since she's still a baby. And the cough could last for weeks. Recently she has developed a really bad cough that interrupt her sleep badly. I can even hear the coarseness in her breathing. We brought her to see doctor on Tuesday and that's when I discovered her eyes were getting red, I can clearly see those tiny red vein in the white parts of her eyes.

According to doctor, it is associated with the cold she has developed, sort of virus infection. Doctor prescribed some cough syrup, medicine to reduce phlegm, and eye drop. But the cough syrup doesn't seem to work, her cough is getting worst and same goes for the eye-drop. Her eyes are getting redder with excessive sticky and crusty eye discharge that glue her eyes shut when she falls asleep.

We'll bring her for a second visit to doctor soon this evening when she is back from school. Don't ask why we're so cruel to force her to school with this alarming condition. She herself ask for it. She wanted to go to school so badly - all thanks to the Chinese school teachers and the tons of homework.

She was on sick leave on Tuesday when I found her not getting enough sleep the night before due to violent cough. Guess what she got from school on Wednesday when she was feeling better to attend school. 7 homework with few pages each, inclusive of those she missed on Tuesday. Imagine how a little girl like Amanda able to cope while she has yet to fully recover from the illness - to finish all 7 homework. Not to mentioned she reached home around 7.20pm.

So, today she insisted to go to school for scare that she might get homework piled up if she misses any, which is totally understandable. I tell her, never mind, two more days to go, then you will have a week break. Hopefully she is doing OK in school today.

Hokkaido: Noboribetsu Mountain

2009-03-12T15:00:00.005+08:00

As promised, here are the photos taken at the steaming Noboribetsu Mountain.

See how beautiful the scenery made by these hot steams.

The weather was real cold in mid November, though the sun was shiny bright.

Getting more steams now as we went further down the mountain.

This was taken quite steep down the mountain as you can see loads of steams coming from the hot ground.

Hubby loves the scenery. It's simply lovely.

Can you imagine yourself flying about above the ground with these steams rising just like those old day wu-xia heroes and heroins.

Hubby took lots of picture in this place. One of his favorite touristy place in Hokkaido.

Love this pic. What a happy couple with the beautiful scene, a memorable place and a must-visit place in Hokkaido.

Welcome To Noboribetsu Mountain!

This was taken when we were about to leave. It is the entrance to Noboribetsu Mountain.

原來貼 OK 蹦也有技巧

2009-03-11T17:04:00.004+08:00

Hokkaido Ramen Street... Slurpp...

2009-03-05T18:26:00.004+08:00

This is the famous Ramen Street in Hokkaido. All the inn-like stalls are selling the yummy springy Japanese ramen. People have to queue up just to have a hot bowl of ramen especially during the cold winter.

While waiting for our Ramen, hubby chit-chatting with the cook in Japanese, yes hubby does speak Japanese.

We ordered two different flavour of ramen. This is his, ramen served with sweet corn and butter on top of the traditional pork slices.

This is mine, the very conventional Japanese ramen in miso soup. Yummyyy...

The cook helped to take this photo of us having ramen in his stall. A thumb-up for the flavourful ramen.

Are you a BANANA man?

2009-03-05T13:38:00.002+08:00

This is interesting. After reading this, you'll never look at a banana in the same way again.

Bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber. A banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy.

Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout. No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes.

But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit. It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.

Depression: According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana. This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

PMS: Forget the pills - eat a banana. The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.

Anemia: High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure: This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it perfect to beat blood pressure. So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Brain Power: 200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power. Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation: High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers: One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey. The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Heartburn: Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness: Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.

Mosquito bites: Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin. Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves: Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Overweight: Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at wor k leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and crisps. Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs. The report concluded that, to avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady.

Ulcers: The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness. It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases. It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

Temperature control: Many other cultures see bananas as a 'cooling' fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers. In Thailand, for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.

Smoking &Tobacco Use: Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking. The B6, B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.

Stress: Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels. These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.

Strokes: According to research in The New England Journal of Medicine, eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%!

Warts: Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out. Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills. When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals. It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around. So maybe it's time to change that well-known phrase so that we say, 'A banana a day keeps the doctor away!'

PS: Bananas must be the reason monkeys are so happy all the time! I will add one here; want a quick shine on our shoes?? Take the INSIDE of the banana skin, and rub directly on the shoe...polish with dry cloth. Amazing fruit !

OK, let's start taking bananas daily ;)

This is what marriage is really all about . . .

2009-03-05T13:21:00.002+08:00

One day we saw an old couple in a fast food restaurant. The old man ordered one hamburger, one French fries and one drink.

He unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it into half. He placed one half in front of his
wife. He then carefully counted out the French fries, dividing them into two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife.

He took a sip of the drink, his wife took a sip and then set the cup down between them.

As he began to eat his few bites of hamburger, the people around them
kept looking over and whispering. You could tell they were thinking, 'That poor old
couple - all they can afford is one meal for the two of them.'

As the man began to eat his fries, hubby went over to their table. He politely offered to
buy another meal for the old couple. The old man said they were just fine - They were
used to sharing everything.

The surrounding people noticed the little old lady hadn't eaten a bite. She sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally taking turns sipping the drink.

Again hubby went over and begged them to let him buy another meal for them. This time the old woman said 'No, thank you, we are used to sharing
everything.'

As the old man finished and was wiping his face neatly with the napkin, hubby again went over to the little old lady who had yet to eat a single bite of the food and asked 'What is it you're waiting for?'

She answered . . . . . .

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. . . . . 'THE TEETH'

Suggestions for Last Minute Valentine Gift

2009-02-13T16:59:00.003+08:00

Here you go the 25 gift ideas for girlfriend / wife:

1. A hair makeover treat
2. Manicure / pedicure treat
3. Bake a cake yourself
4. A Facial treat
5. Sexy lingerie
6. Sexy sleeping dress
7. Bikini
8. Watch
9. Makeup set
10. Handbag
11. Skincare products
12. BodyShop hamper
13. Perfume
14. Costume jewelry - brooch / necklace / bracelet / earrings / ring
15. Fine jewelry - brooch / necklace / bracelet / earrings / ring / diamond
16. Photo Frame (with a photo of the two of you)
17. Crystal
18. Evening dress / gown
19. A shawl
20. Belt
21. A Love Letter + Heart-shaped pillow
22. Bouquet of folded notes (can be RM1 / RM5 / RM10 / RM100, up to you)
23. Shopping voucher from her favorite boutique
23. Sunglasses
24. A new mobile phone for her
25. A plush toy of her favorite cartoon character

My Valentines' Day Bouquet

2009-02-13T14:40:00.005+08:00

My Valentines' Day bouquet received much earlier this year unexpectedly on the 15th of Chinese Lunar calendar. Yes, it's on Chap Goh May itself. Chap Goh Mei too is a Valentines' Day for Chinese.

This is the first time I received Daisy flower. According to the flower meaning, daisy represents purity and innocence, cheerfulness, loyal love. Daisy is often used while confessing undying love.

Here's my Daisy bouquet:

Close-up view

Side view

Top view

My girls posing with my Valentines' Day Bouquet - 1st take

2nd take with their lovely smiles

To my dear hubby, thank you for your thoughtfulness and your love and caring. We both know that we are meant for each other. But I'm still scratching my head now wondering what surprise to give you on this special Valentines' Day. Any idea anyone?

Actually I have compiled a list of possible surprises for my dear hubby, maybe you can decide for me which one is better.

Gift Ideas for my man:

1. A tie possibly
2. Leather wallet
3. Belt
4. Home-cooked candle light dinner
5. ~~Shoes~~ (kenot, people say hor cannot give shoes as present to your couple, or else they will become run-away wife / hubby / girlfriend / boyfriend)
6. A car (i mean toy car)
7. Toiletries
8. Undies
9. Watch (too expensive)
10. Electric shavers (yes, he's still using manual shaver, a loyal customer of Gillette)
11. A massage treat (those genuine one lah of course)
12. A facial treat
13. Ferrero Rocher Chocolate (no, that's for me)
14. Sunglasses
15. Memory Foam pillow
16. Books (yes he loves books)
17. A Seminar ticket (he simply loves attending seminar)
18. A Love Letter (from me of course)
19. A manicure / pedicure treat (no lah, just kidding, this is for ladies)
20. Parkson voucher (let him choose his gift)

Anymore ideas anyone? Hope your suggestions won't be too late for me as tomorrow is 14th February - Valentines' Day.

Happy Valentines' Day Everyone. For those singles, do enjoy your day with your beloved single friends and family especially your parents.

Happy Valentines' Day again !!

Breathing Therapy

2009-02-13T14:33:00.003+08:00

Our noses have left and right nostrils. Are these nostrils having the same function for inhaling (breathe in) and exhaling (breathe out)?

Actually it's not the same and we can feel the difference. Accordingly, the right side represents the sun and the left side represents the moon.

When having headache, try to close your right nostril and use your left nostril to do breathing for about 5 min. The headache will be gone.

If you feel too tired, do it the opposite way. Close your left nostril and breathe through your right nostril. After a while, you will feel refresh again.

Because the right side belongs to heat, so it gets hot easily. The left side gets cold easily.

Women breathe mainly with their left nostril, so they get calm down easily.

Men breathe mostly with their right nostril, so they get angry easily.

When we wake up, do we notice which nostril breathes faster? Is it the left side or the right side?

If the left nostril breathes faster, you will feel very tired. Close your left nostril and use your right nostril for breathing and you will get refresh quickly.

You can teach your kids about it. The effect of breathing therapy is much better for adults.

I used to have painful headache. When consulted a doctor, he told me jokingly," You will be all right if you get married!" The doctor did not bullshit me as he had his theory and supported with testimony.

During that time, I used to have headache every night and I was not able to study. I took medicine but I was not cured.

One night as I sat down to medidate, I closed my right nostril and breathed with my left nostril. In less than a week, it seemed that my headache problem had left me! I continued doing it for about a month and since then there was no recurrence of headache in me.

This is my own experience. I used to tell others who also suffer headache to try this method as it was effective for me. It also works for those who have tried as well.

Now that I have cured my headache, I wonder is this method too works for blocked nose. Which nostril shall I breath with now? I try closing my left nostril, and guess what, it does work. My nose is now cleared.

This is a natural therapy, unlike taking medicines for a long time may have side effect. So, why don't you try it out?

Practice the correct ways of breathing (breathe in and breathe out) and your body will be in a very relaxing condition.

Photos taken with Mom... ladies only

2009-02-12T13:02:00.004+08:00

This photo taken during CNY 2009 at mom's house. It was late at night, dad was dozing off, that explained why he was not in the picture. Amanda was at the extreme left, where only her left hand seen. She refused to pose, so Edward (my bro-in-law) excluded her in the picture. That little girl at right is Olivia. I sat next to my mom with my straight hair. My sisters have permed their hair and that look really nice on them. I wonder how I look in curly hair. Don't you think that we sisters and mom do look alike!

This was taken in November 2007 during dad's birthday celebration. See how naughty is Olivia's expression. The cute girl in pink jacket is Amanda.

This photo taken with Angela joining us. Angela - my youngest sister.

I slept in the living room last night

2009-02-12T12:55:00.002+08:00

Was having bad cough last night.

Taken 2-tablespoon of cough syrup before bed, but woke up middle of the night around 3am to weewee, my cough started again.

Being a caring and considerate wife + mom (ahem), i closed my mouth with both my hands to tahan the cough until I was out of the room. what a relieve when you can cough out loud to soothe the itching throat.

Then i went back to the room thinking to continue my good night sleep, who knows, the moment i lied down, my throat started to itch again. so again, i kena tahan my cough until i was out in the living room to cough sepuas-puas nya. this repeated few times until myself cannot take it.

Then i decided might as well sleep in the living room. and slowly i moved my pillow and blanket out to the living room. before i tucked myself into the blanket again, i quickly took 2-tablespoon of cough syrup to stop the itchy throat from calling me up again. that's how i ended up woke up in the living room this morning all by myself. so lonely.

Haih...

2009-02-11T19:00:00.002+08:00

I wonder what happen to me. Can't seem to getting myself motivated to blog.

Have been too lazy to blog these days, though I have too much to share.

I have yet to write a post about my little Olivia's school venture, CNY preparation and celebration though it has ended peacefully this Monday, my Valentine's present that arrived earlier which caught me in surprise.

How ar... I'm too lazy these days. Can I just post photos and let the photos do the talking? Good idea?

Voted Best E-mail by Women readers' @ Vogue magz Nov 08 issue

2009-01-16T10:24:00.001+08:00

A man was sick and tired of going to work every day while his wife stayed home.

He wanted her to see what he went through so he prayed:
'Dear Lord:

I go to work every day and put in 8 hours while my wife merely stays at home.

I want her to know what I go through.

So, please allow her body to switch with mine for a day.

Amen!'

God, in his infinite wisdom, granted the man's wish.

The next morning, sure enough, the man awoke as a woman.

He arose, cooked breakfast for his mate,
Awakened the kids,

Set out their school clothes,

Fed them breakfast,

Packed their lunches,

Drove them to school,

Came home and picked up the dry cleaning,

Took it to the cleaners

And stopped at the bank to make a deposit,

Went grocery shopping,

Then drove home to put away the groceries,

Paid the bills and balanced the check book.

He cleaned the cat's litter box and bathed the dog.

Then, it was already 01P.M.

And he hurried to make the beds,
Do the laundry, vacuum,

Dust,

And sweep and mop the kitchen floor.

Ran to the school to pick up the kids and got into an argument with them on the way home.

Set out milk and cookies and got the kids organized to do their homework.

Then, set up the ironing board and watched TV while he did the ironing.

At 4:30 he began peeling potatoes and washing vegetables for salad, breaded the pork chops and snapped fresh beans for supper.

After supper,

He cleaned the kitchen,

Ran the dishwasher,

Folded laundry,

Bathed the kids,

And put them to bed.

At 09 P.M .

He was exhausted and, though his daily chores weren't finished, he went to bed where he was expected to make love, which he managed to get through without complaint.

The next morning, he awoke and immediately knelt by the bed and said: -
'Lord, I don't know what I was thinking.

I was so wrong to envy my wife's being able to stay home all day.

Please, oh! Oh! Please, let us trade back.

Amen!'

The Lord, in his infinite wisdom, replied:

'My son, I feel you have learned your lesson and I will be happy to change things back to the way they were.
You'll just have to wait nine months, though.

You got pregnant last night.'

This has been voted Women's Favorite E-mail of the Year!

But the guy asked God what abt an

Indon Maid 2 help me !!!

Note: Now they (the guys) know how exhausted we are... Don't you agree with me?

Busy, busy, busy (updated)

2009-01-15T18:28:00.004+08:00

Sorry for the lack of update recently. I am super duper busy these few weeks with the new school academic year started.

My Amanda is now in primary Year 1, she looked so cute and 'dai gou lui' in her pinafore. Will upload her photo soon. Here's her photo in primary uniform.

I have been off for few days to accompany her to her new school in SS2, yes, it is SRJK(C) Puay Chai. Do not why this time Amanda got so emo and panic. She burst into tears for the first 2 days in the school. The first day was the orientation day on 31-Dec, when she thought we have left the school and leaving her alone in the hall with a bunch of little strangers. Haha.. Reason being, she saw her dad peeping around by the door and she didn't seem to see me. So, that very first thought came into her mind was... we were leaving.

The second time was on the first day in school which was on 05-Jan. We didn't fetch her to school that very first day, we let her go with the tranporter lady whom we arrange to fetch her to and fro and from school. And I told her that I will go to her school to look for her later. God, who knows, she thought I will be in her school waiting for her to reach school. (blink~blink). So, when she reached the school and couldn't find me, she burst into tears again. Oh gosh, what happened to you my darling. You are always the cheerful type, and you didn't get panic the firtst day to kindie.

Luckily everything goes fine now, and she seems to getting happier each time coming back from school though it's tiring for her.

Will write another post about my Olivia's school venture. Stay tuned...

Not fair, not fair

2008-12-23T19:32:00.003+08:00

Overheard that boss is going to give bonus and increment to the junior staff only this year. Medium and higher management will not get anything this year. Bad news for me.

Not fair. Not fair. How could this be?

We have also put in our effort (+ sweat + tears + blood) this whole year long for the company. How can we are not rewarded for the sweat? Don't our effort being appreciated? ::crying face::

Not fair, not fair. We don't mind if it is just a small token, at least to show your appreciation.

We are very cham already this year, new academic year is going to start soon, and Chinese New Year is around the corner. I know, i know it is still another one month ahead. I don't even dare to mention about Christmas, where got enough money to spend for Christmas, already spent hundreds on the kids' uniforms, school bags, shoes, stationery, workbooks. ::sobbing::

Haih... really hope that boss changes his mind -- give bonus (at least) to everyone. Everybody will be happy then. (praying hard now)

Worry To Look Older Than My Age?

2008-12-23T19:20:00.004+08:00

I found that recently my skin becomes dry and loses its flexibility, fine lines are visible especially on the forehead area, skin loses its natural glow and looks very dim and dull. I guess this is common among ladies at my age, this is especially true for those who stay up very late at night and staring at computer screen at least 12 hours a day like myself. But for the fear of looking older than my age, I start googling for some beauty maintenance tips. Here's what I got:

It seems that different skin types have their different way to maintain. So, it is obvious that the first thing I need to do is to find out my skin type and its appropriate way to maintain. There are basically 4 types of skin:

1. Moist and oily skin
This skin is basically normal, but it tends to change with environment, climate and diet. For example, hot season will cause excessive sebum and this leads to acne. So the best way to maintain this type of skin is to keep yourself in good condition with healthy diet.

2. Oily and water-lack skin
If your skin tends to get oiler whenever you forget about protection, you shall be more focus on retaining the moisture of your skin. The pores on this type of skin is obvious to be seen, making it to appear constantly oily. So, while you are busy removing the excess oil from your face, do keep in mind to replenish the skin with proper moisturizer. When skin is moistured adequently, less oil will be produced. You can combine the usage of Oil-control + moisturizing products together.

3. Moist, oil-less skin
This skin type will be the perfect skin type if much attention is given to moisture and oil-resistant. Although this skin may be the best, but lack of oil will result to the loss of moisture easily too especially when one is in air-conditioned setting or during cold windy days - skin gets dried up quite easily. Therefore, skin-care products with adequate oil is crucial. In addition, you should also pay more addition to the eyes area to avoid early fine lines as

4. Water-lack, oil-less skin
This skin type is the most fragile type that requires super extra care. This type of skin tends to get dry easily and is prone to fine lines. So, you have to be gentle with your face during the cleansing routine. Try to avoid stimulating the skin too much. Concentrate on supplementing sufficient moisture and adequate oil to this delicate skin type will do good to keeping yourself youthful.

Is Your Body Starving from Vitamins? How much you know about vitamins?

2008-12-23T18:47:00.004+08:00

Vitamins (combination of two words: Vital Amines) are the complex organic substance essential in small quantities to the metabolism (nutrition) in most animals. These are found in minute quantities in food, in some cases are produced by the body, and are also produced synthetically. The human body needs them to work properly, so that we can grow and develop just like we should. Their deficiency results in many serious disorders.

Vitamins are divided into two major groups: the ‘fat-soluble vitamins’ designated as vitamin A, vitamin D, vitamin E, and vitamin K, and the ‘water-soluble vitamins’ which include vitamin C and the group of molecules referred to as the vitamin B complex. Each of them has its own special role in the development of human body.

Vitamin A
Vitamin A, a fat-soluble vitamin, plays a really big part in eyesight and helps us to see in dim light and also at night. Vitamin A is also involved in the formation and maintenance of healthy skin, hair, and mucous membranes. In addition, it is necessary for proper bone growth, tooth development, reproduction and for the development of epithelial cells (that line any opening to the body e.g.; nose, throat, lungs, mouth, stomach, intestines and urinary tract).

Vitamin A can be found in eggs, milk, carrots, spinach, sweet potatoes, fish oil, liver (pork, lamb, chicken, turkey or beef), butter, broccoli, apricots, nectarines, cantaloupe, and orange or yellow vegetables or fruits.

The deficiency of vitamin A can cause two major disorders like: night blindness and drying of skin.

Vitamin B
Vitamin B itself is a complex of different vitamins like: B1, B2, B6, B12, niacin, folic acid, biotin and pantothenic acid. These B vitamins are very important in metabolic activity and in facilitating the red blood cell (which carry oxygen throughout your body). They also help your body make protein and energy.

The sources of vitamin B are leafy green vegetables seafood, beans, peas, citrus fruits, whole grains (such as wheat and oats), poultry, meats, eggs and dairy products (like milk and yogurt). Some bacteria in our large intestine also prepare some type of B-vitamins.

The deficiency of vitamin B can cause the disease “Beri Beri”, cracked lips, weak muscles, malformation of red blood cells, affects normal growth and disturbs the nervous system.

Vitamin C
Vitamin C or ascorbic acid is a water-soluble, antioxidant vitamin that is vital to the production of collagen, a protein that gives structure to bones, cartilage, muscle, and blood vessels. It is important for keeping body tissues, such as gums and muscles in good shape and it helps in quick healing of wounds. In addition, it helps protecting the fat-soluble vitamins A and E as well as fatty acids from oxidation.

The vitamin C can be found in citrus fruits (like lemon & orange), cantaloupe, strawberries, tomatoes, broccoli, cabbage and in other fresh fruits and vegetables.

The deficiency of vitamin C affects the healthy skin; poor wound healing and can lead to a disease called “Scurvy” which causes bleeding in gums, easy bruising, bumps of coiled hair on the arms and legs, pain in the joints, muscle wasting, and many other problems.

Vitamin D
Vitamin D is a fat-soluble vitamin that regulates the formation of bone and the absorption of calcium and phosphorus from the intestine. It helps to control the movement of calcium between bone and blood, and vice versa. It is this vitamin you need for strong bones and teeth. In addition it helps your body absorb the amount of calcium it needs.

Vitamin D can be found in fish liver oil, egg yolks, milk and other dairy products fortified with vitamin D. It is also produced in our body in the presence of ultra violet light and sunlight.
The deficiency of vitamin D can cause weak bones and bowed legs (in children). And its excess can cause loss of appetite, weight loss, nausea, headache, depression and deposits of calcium in the kidneys.

Vitamin E
Vitamin E, a fat-soluble vitamin, is essential for the inhibition of oxidation in body tissues, formation of red blood cells, and also prevents breakdown of body tissues. It maintains the body tissues and protects the lungs from becoming damaged by polluted air.

This vitamin can be found in whole grains (such as wheat and oat), wheat germ, leafy green vegetables, sardines, egg yolks, nuts, bread, cereals and seeds. The deficiency of this vitamin can cause many diseases like cancer, diabetes, heart disease, and Alzheimer's disease.

SARDARGI JOKES....Enjoy !

2008-12-17T18:24:00.003+08:00

Received this from Friend meant to be Shared, Cheers!

Boss: Where were you born?
Sardar: India ..
Boss: which part?
Sardar: What 'which part'? Whole body was born in India.

2 sardar were fixing a bomb in a car.
Sardar 1: What would you do if the bomb
explodes while fixing.
Sardar 2: Dont worry, I have one more.

Sardar: What is the name of your car?
Lady: I forgot the name, but is starts with 'T'.
Sardar: Oh, what a strange car, starts with Tea. All cars that I know start with petrol.

Sardar joined new job. 1st day he worked till late evening on the computer. Boss was happy and asked what you did till evening.
Sardar: Keyboard alphabets were not in order, so I made it alright.

Museum Administrator: That's a 500-year-old statue u've broken.
Sardar: Thanks God! I thought it was a new one.

At the scene of an accident a man was crying: O God! I have lost my hand, oh!
Sardar: Control yourself. Don't cry. See that man. He has lost his head. Is he crying?

Sardar: U cheated me.
Shopkeeper: No, I sold a good radio to u.
Sardar: Radio label shows Made in Japan but radio says this is 'All India Radio! '

NOW THE LAST TWO ULTIMATE:
In an interview, Interviewer: How does an electric motor run?
Sardar: Dhhuuuurrrrrrrrrr. .....
Inteviewer shouts: Stop it.
Sardar: Dhhuurrrr dhup dhup dhup...

Tourist: Whose skeleton is that?
Sardar: An old king's skeleton.
Tourist: Who's that smaller skeleton next to it?
Sardar: That was same king's skeleton when he was a child.

A Visit to Samurai Village, Hokkaido

2008-12-16T18:49:00.001+08:00

Guess what, he is a real human.

There are lots of shops along the pathway selling special Japanese delicacies including some yummy ice-cream.

He is the most amusing Samurai. If you wanna capture a heroic shot, you will pretend to be killed by you. He brought lots of laughter after all. Everyone was eager to take photo with him. LOL

One of the shop selling Japanese delicacies.

Japanese are darn friendly.

Geisha show, co-starred by one of our travel buddies.

See the General seated in the middle, he is our travel buddy. It is not easy to co-star in this Geisha show, in addition to have to beat other representatives from other travel groups (by paper-scissor-stone), one has to be good in alcohol. Can you see that the Geisha is pouring sake into the "cup" - you gonna empty the "cup" or else they won't let you go. My poor buddy...

Our tour guide told us that it takes ONE and A-Half hour to dress up a Geisha including the makeup, hair style and kimono. It is sure very a long and tiresome process.

Ninja show. We were told to to snap photos when everything turned dark. Wonder why?

It was quite an action-packed show. Arhh, I forgot to mention that there is this culture that before we went in for the show, be it Geisha show or Ninja show, we were given pieces of white paper. It was for us to wrap some coins and throw it onto the stage when the show ended to show our appreciation.

Little mock-up of traditional Japanese village - depicting traditional Japanese lifestyle.

Traditional Clock Tower

Maneki Neko - the Japanese Lucky Cat

Cham-lah, No Bonus for This Year

2008-12-13T12:14:00.000+08:00

Heard that There will be NOOO bonus for this year !!!

WHAT WE SHALL DO????

AND IF STILL NOTHING HAPPENS WHAT TO DO ????????????????????
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Nausea - the aftermath of coffee resumed

2008-12-12T17:07:00.004+08:00

Did I tell you lately that I have consumed back the long-stop coffee drinking habit? It has been few months already I didn't take my usual morning / evening coffee. I used to have at least one cup of coffee, but sometimes, I get myself 2 - one in the morning, one during tea-time, around 4pm.

I began to abstain myself from taking coffee when my eczema condition exaggerates. It took months for me to heal the broken skin and the much hated itchiness. When my condition got better, my addiction to coffee came back. Natural human behavior I guess, when you don't have any health issue that bothers you, your bad habit starts to kick in naturally. Hahaha...

But weird enough that when i consumed back coffee, this "long-lost" drink kinda gives me some strange side effect - nausea. Sometimes it comes with bloated stomach too. The feeling is like morning sickness in the beginning stage of pregnancy. What a big joke, I even worry myself of getting pregnant (so coincident that my menses was late), and it is not just one time, but two times - in the month of October and November. Don't you think it is damn humorous.

Have anyone out there experiencing the same side-effect like me having nausea and bloating stomach after drinking coffee? Mind to share your story?

Beware: New Storing Device that save What You Have Typed

2008-12-12T16:57:00.003+08:00

PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHENEVER YOU'RE USING A PC AT A PUBLIC PLACE (Like INTERNET CAFES. ETC ).

CHECK THE BACK OF THE PC AND SEE IF THE BELOW DEVICE IS THERE..IF SO..DO NOT USE IT!!! It is called Hardware Keylogger !

New storing device fits at the end of the keyboard cable connecting to the PC specialized to save all typed keys in it.

Mostly could be used in net cafes, exhibitions, hotels and airports therefore be careful especially the people who use the internet in these places to enter their bank accounts online or any other important sites.

After you enter the bank account and leave the PC it will be easy to open your account again as all what you have typed has been saved in the Black device.

Therefore, you should check the PC for any suspicious piece behind it before using the net in public places for important sites.

Photo Sharing: Hokkaido Trip - Day 2 @ 15-Nov-2008

2008-12-04T18:36:00.001+08:00

Second day in Hokkaido, the weather was getting colder. Sun rises as early as 5.30am, and sunset at around 5pm. Kinda weird for us Malaysian. Traveling in winter somehow gives you shorten time for sight-seeing and shopping as well. Shops only open at 8 or 9 am, but some close as soon as the night kicks in, eg. around 6-ish in the evening when sky turns dark.

Here are some of the photos taken in day 2.

Nice scenery surrounding the hotel we stayed on the first night - Toya Sun Palace, a 5-star hotel.

The view is really magnificent, which I thought can only be seen on postcards. LOL

Do you see the mountain topped with white snow? Our tour guide said it is the local version of Mount Fuji in Sapporo.

Our first stop for the day was the steaming Noboribetsu Mountain. Can you see the whitish steam vaporized at the back?

You will see more steams as you go further down. It gives the illusion of the Chinese KungFu movie where the heroes and heroins flying and jumping around in the sky with these white steams. Haha...

More photos coming up soon. Stay tune ...

Improving Rheumatoid Arthritis Symptoms

2008-12-03T19:05:00.002+08:00

Rheumatoid arthritis is a disease where white blood cells suddenly attack healthy tissues, specifically joints and cartilage. There are a few ways to help ease the symptoms, depending on which stage of the disease you are in. If you are in the early stages of rheumatoid arthritis there is a new disease modifying anti-rheumatic drug (DMARD) which has done an excellent job in controlling symptoms. It works best in the initial stages, so if you suspect you may have rheumatoid arthritis, see your doctor as soon as possible.

There are other options if you are in later stages of rheumatoid arthritis. These are also helpful if you are still in early stages. One is to use anti-inflammatory drugs such as aspirin, ibuprofen, and naproxen. This does a great job reducing pain and inflammation. However, these have side effects including heart problems and gastrointestinal bleeding. You can also use acetaminophen for your rheumatoid arthritis, which does not have these side effects.

When symptoms are mild, moderate exercising including stretching, weight lifting, and aerobics ease rheumatoid arthritis symptoms. Be sure to rest when your joints flare up as this would just add strain to your aching joints. Stretching is important because it increases flexibility and is easy enough to do at any age. When stretching, stop when you feel mild discomfort and hold for 10 to 30 seconds. Then repeat 3 to 5 times. Weight lifting also improves flexibility as well as strength and balance. Barbells are easy, convenient, and inexpensive. Remember to stretch before lifting any weights. Start with 3 sets of 8 to 10 repetitions. If you would like you can start with no weights at all (such as going leg lifts for rheumatoid arthritis in the knees), then add weights when you can. Lift the weights slowly and evenly to not damage the cartilage.

Some other popular forms of exercise for rheumatoid arthritis are aqua therapy and Tai Chi. Be sure to find an actual therapist as they have specific exercises they do for arthritis patients. Aerobics instructors may push to far and do further damage. Tai Chi has no long term studies proving its effectiveness, but due to testimonials from patients who have taken Tai Chi, the Arthritis Foundation began offering the class. Remember to always check with your doctor before starting an exercise program.

Some other ways to relieve rheumatoid arthritis pain are to lose weight to take additional pressure off joints, eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, using heat or ice, and possibly using devices such as a cane, brace, or splint. There are many resources for additional information on rheumatoid arthritis including websites, flyers, periodicals, books, etc. Your doctor should be able to provide you with some reference on where to look for additional help.

如果你(你)想交个男女朋友的话那可别错过了唷!

2008-12-02T13:13:00.002+08:00

每个测验的选项都很让人哭笑不得！

而且也很难选！可是又觉得非常地好笑～

1、哪种情况你能接受呢？早上醒来后，突然发现...

A、发现自己全身赤裸睡在通往学校的路上。
B、隔壁睡着全身一丝不挂的怪老头。

【解答】∶你对异性的要求
A、你希望他能尊重你心里的感受。当你发生事情需要帮忙时，他能够在身边守护你、温柔地对待你。发现你光着身体睡着了，马上帮你披上衣服并温柔地对你说「会着凉唷！
B、你是个很重视外表的人，你希望你喜欢的他懂得如何装扮自己，而且必须很有品味，跟他走在一起要不失你的面子，
最好大家都能对你露出钦羡的眼光，这样的你小心遇人不淑。

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2、你会选哪一种男女朋友？

A、一年只能与他相会5分钟。
B、一年里他分分秒秒都待在你身边。

【解答】∶

A、你选择了一年只能相聚５分钟的情人，天啊！？你真是如此冷漠的人吗？其实不然，你如果喜欢上一个人，会愿意与他一起奋斗，即使再苦也心甘情愿，你是个很重感情的织女。
B、连上厕所也要心爱的他陪伴在你身旁，外表看来好象感情很浓密，但这其实不过是表面罢了。当你单恋他时热情如火。但正式交往后热情马上就冷却了，可以说是非常善变的人。

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3、想成为童话故事中的哪位女主角？

A、大家叫都叫不醒的睡美人。
B、最后被大野狼吃掉的小红帽。

【解答】∶你的失恋型态为何？

A、你的个性相当内向，即使你已经将告白情书写好了，还是不敢寄出去。结果准备送他的巧克力都放到过期了。只敢远远地看着他，整天胡思乱想。再不行动的话，真的要失恋了。
B、只要你喜欢上某人，绝对会马上告白，而且还整天跟着他，
甚至自告奋勇要照顾他的生活起居。也不管对方对你是何种感觉，只要自己喜欢就放手做，这样小心会被对方讨厌。

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4、如果你会选哪一个？

A、吃食人鱼大餐。
B、让食人鱼请客。

【解答】∶遇人不淑的可能性

A、你是个头脑相当清楚，不容易被旁人左右的人。社交能力佳。个性也非常随和，马上就能跟任何人打成一片，不过，
你绝对不会让自己掉进危险的环境里，很懂得要如何保护自己。
B、当有异性要追求你时，你的外表也许会故意装成一副有所矜持的样子。但其实你的心里早已非常雀跃。等对方再灌点迷汤，你就会飘飘然，最后完全忘了自己的立场而任人摆布。

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5、你宁愿选择以下哪一种情况？

A、每次男朋友只要看着你的脸，就会噗嗤大笑。
B、你只要一看到男朋友的脸，就会忍不住要捧腹大笑。

【解答】∶阻碍恋情的情结

A、你对自己很没有自信，你是不是经常在问自己「怎么可能会是我。对于爱情的态度相当消极，就算有喜欢的人也不敢向他告白。其实每个人都有他自己的长处，你要乐观一点。
B、你是个个性好胜、又自信满满的人，根本不把与你相同年龄的男孩子放在眼里，总觉得他们很幼稚，其实你有一点恋父情结倾向，会喜欢上老师或学长。将来会和年长男性谈恋爱。

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6、你们第一次约会的时候发生了什么事情？

A、他的裤子掉了。
B、你的裙子掉了。

【解答】∶约会时发生的失误状况！

A、你是不是每次约会时，都不知道该穿什么衣服好呢？他喜欢红色但今天你的幸运色是蓝色....，每次都犹豫半天，还是做不了决定。所以每次约会都迟到，小心哪天他不等你了。
B、你是个相当自我的人，从来不在意他人的感受。明知他喜欢复古的打扮，你却将自己打扮成庞克女郎赴约，让他觉得好失望。如果你再这样下去的话，他可是会离你远去的喔～

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7、以下两种情形，你会选择哪一种？

A、一个星期都动弹不得。
B、整整失眠一个星期。

【解答】∶你是自由恋爱派？还是相亲派？

A、你是属于相亲派，因为你很怕麻烦，觉得靠自己找对象不保险，万一被骗了，受伤的人是自己，透过相亲的话至少能掌握对方的状况与家世背景，遇人不淑的可能性就可降低。
B、你是标准的自由恋爱派，认为只有自己才最清楚自己喜欢什么样的人，你会努力地寻找人生伴侣，就连睡觉作梦时也在想这件事。一旦发现理想对象马上展开行动，掳获他的心。

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8、你会选哪个？

A、你上厕所时被他看到了。
B、他上厕所时被你看到了。

【解答】∶找出你的色情程度
A、只要一看到杂志上的色情报导，或是看到电视上的一些亲热镜头。你就会不自觉地脸红害羞。在异性眼中的你是个纯情派，但其实你早就有过这些亲热体验，只是不说出来罢了。
B、随着年龄的增长，你对于这方面的事会更加感兴趣。你会看相关杂志、书籍吸收知识，所以难免会被人误以为你非常好色。但其实你只是知道而已，却从未有过这方面的经验。

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9、一定要选其中一个当男朋友的话，你会选谁？

A、身高40公尺的超人。
B。身高15公分的一寸法师。

【解答】∶会跟什么样的人结婚呢？

A、你的未来老公，应该是个值得依赖的人，个性稳重、能保护软弱的你，他的年纪应该会大你很多，且事业有成，足够让你拥有幸福安稳的生活。
B、你的未来老公会是个可爱的大男孩，有点小任性，喜欢向你撒娇，你就象他的妈妈一般地对他照顾的无微不至，他的年纪应该是比你小。

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10、如果你是一个合成的人，你会选择下列哪一个？

A、大猩猩的脸，藤原纪香的身材。
B。松岛菜菜子的脸，企鹅的身材。

【解答】∶你是个花心的人吗？

A、你是个好色女，当男性追求你时，虽然嘴里说不行，但是你的手却紧紧握着他的手。就算结婚了，若有人想追求你，还是会移情别恋。
B、在其他异性面前你的态度都是非常自然，可以跟他们谈笑风生，难免会让人以为你是个花心少女。其实你的心中只有他，不会变心。

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11、你会选择下列哪一种录影机？

A、只能快速放映的录影机。
B、只能慢速播放的录影机。

【解答】∶你会在何时结婚？

A、你是超积极的行动派，只要找到意中人，就会马上摒除所有的障碍，只想跟他生活在一起，很有可能在２２岁左右就嫁为人妇了。
B、你是属于小心谨慎派，就算已经有了心上人，也不会马上急着结婚。
你认为必须等到彼此了解后再谈婚事，因此可能会错过好机会。

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12、如果一定要给男朋友吃其中一种的药的话，你会让他吃以下哪一种？

A、一吃就会放屁放个不停的药。
B、一吃就会流鼻涕流不停的药。

【解答】∶将来你会是怎样的太太？

A、你是先生的开心果，每天都会为家人制造出许多欢乐，虽然你的个性有点迷糊，不过会是一个惹人疼爱的好太太。
B、你有一点阴险，表面上对先生好象唯命是从，但却经常在背地里骂他是大笨蛋，这样的你很有可能成为恶妻唷！

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13、你会选择哪一个？

A、被吸血鬼吸血。
B、喝吸血鬼的血。

【解答】∶夫妻吵架是什么状况？

A、你是个相当固执的人，一旦吵架了，就一整个星期都不跟他说话，也不会做饭给他吃，甚至连正眼也不会看他，就象梅雨季一样，会继续冷战好久好久。
B、你们一旦吵架了，家里一定是杯盘满天飞，满地都是碎玻璃，你还会大声对骂，不过暴风雨马上就过去了。骂完后就将东西收拾一下，就好象没事发生般。

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14、你宁愿选择下列哪一种很糗的情形？

A、站在隔壁班同学的面前大喊「给我麦香鱼和小可！」
B、在麦当劳柜台前大喊「我要台北到高雄的自强号两张！」

【解答】∶你的小孩个性如何？

A、你将来小孩的个性非常的乖巧、服从，不过就是有点太内向了，总是给人软弱好欺负的感觉。
B、将来你的孩子非常活泼好动，对你来说，教育孩子的工作会相当辛苦，你经常要扯着喉咙骂他们。

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15、你会选择哪个游戏玩？

A、在火山岩浆中冲浪。
B、撑遮阳伞从高空降落。

【解答】∶你们的休闲活动是？

A、你们都喜欢运动式的休闲活动，平常会相偕去打打网球、游游泳或开车兜风，很喜欢做户外的休闲活动。
B、你们两人都喜欢室内休闲活动，假日一到就相偕去听演唱会或音乐会，有空时就一起去看个午夜场电影。

Forms For EPF Contribution At 11%

2008-12-02T12:33:00.001+08:00

Quoted from EPF Website:

Members of the Employees Provident Fund (EPF) who wish to maintain the employee’s monthly contribution rate at 11 per cent from January 2009 wage may obtain Form KWSP 17A (AHL) Khas from all EPF branches or download it from myEPF website beginning 01-Dec-2008. Fully completed forms can be submitted to the members’ respective employers for onward submission to the EPF.

The EPF has also made available Form KWSP 17AA (AHL) Khas to facilitate employers who wish to apply on behalf of more than two employees.

Deputy Prime Minister and Finance Minister YAB Datuk Seri Najib Tun Abdul Razak recently announced the reduction of the employees’ monthly statutory contribution rate from 11 per cent to 8 per cent, effective from January 2009 wage for a period of two years. The measure is taken to help increase members’ disposable income given the current economic climate. The higher disposable income will in turn support domestic consumption and help sustain the momentum of positive economic growth.

In relation to reduction in the statutory contribution rate which will take effect from January 2009 wage to December 2010 wage, a new monthly contributions schedule has been issued. Members and employers may download the new schedule from their website or get the schedule from any of EPF branches nationwide.

Can U Read This

2008-12-02T10:15:00.001+08:00

fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid, too. Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny 55 plepoe tuo fo 100 anc.

I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dseno't mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in a wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whotuit a pboerlm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanmig huh? yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipmorantt!

If you can read this, your brain is 50% faster than those who can't. Mine is 50% faster :)

做女人不要失去自我

Signs That You Have Fallen Out of Love

当爱情在消逝...

女人应该活出精彩

女人要精致地活着

女人要学会好好爱自己

她变得不再开心

女人的一生可以有两段婚姻？

做女人不要失去自我

Female Heart Attacks Symptoms

Knowing Cancer and How To Fight It

The Best Time To Get Married

Your First Time Brazilian Bikini Wax

What's Wrong With My Face?

Women’s Self-Defense Against Men

Women Bosses - Balancing Work & Home Life

Save So You Can Bank on a Bright Future

Extra Money for Your Extra Time

Tips on How to Teach Your Kids to Save Money

Essential Money Saving Tips for Students

Saving Money on Electricity: A Money-Saving Maintenance

What is a Corset?

Wearing Red Has Never Been So Stylish-Or Such A Healthy Idea

The How To's Of Choosing Your Lady's Scent

Tips to treat acne

22 Rules For a Wonderful Living

My Family My Everything

妻子的空位 (The irreplaceable void)

Incredible Children Performance

10 inspirational quotes to improve yourself

Genuine Happiness Comes from Within

Impossible is Just a Word

Common Marriage Problems

Do you believe in Ghost?

10 questions you should ask to yourself

How to Gain a Shapely Waist through Yoga

Sharing is loving, loving is sharing

Crepes recipe

Meet My Girls

Is bathroom mold bothering you?

習慣，就是時間累積而來的一種動作

Health Story

KL Taxi Driver....Girl please read this!!!!

LIFEBOOK 2009

只有十句话，我却看了十分钟

When you don't have a choice

Pay RM40 to get RM50 worth of voucher

Amazing Watermelon Art Festival

Stop The Killing Of Seals

谁要是娶这种妻子就不配做男人！

Have a Good Laugh

感冒: 多喝水卻很少尿尿; 一定要要注意

JUST INSPIRATIONAL - The Smiling Crippled Girl

How to use simple foods in the most natural way to fight illnesses and maintain good health

What to do when you are trapped in a lift?

No Space, Leave the Place

Toxic mold removal

Ladies beware if you love eating chicken wings

I rather sleep on the floor

Do you feel pressure living with your spouse?

Meet My Girl - Olivia

Little Cough-Prone Girl

Hokkaido: Noboribetsu Mountain

原來貼 OK 蹦 也 有 技 巧

Hokkaido Ramen Street... Slurpp...

Are you a BANANA man?

This is what marriage is really all about . . .

Suggestions for Last Minute Valentine Gift

My Valentines' Day Bouquet

Breathing Therapy

Photos taken with Mom... ladies only

I slept in the living room last night

Haih...

Voted Best E-mail by Women readers' @ Vogue magz Nov 08 issue

Busy, busy, busy (updated)

Not fair, not fair

Worry To Look Older Than My Age?

Is Your Body Starving from Vitamins? How much you know about vitamins?

SARDARGI JOKES....Enjoy !

A Visit to Samurai Village, Hokkaido

原來貼 OK 蹦也有技巧