Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Signs That You Have Fallen Out of Love

1. Losing interest in the other person is an obvious sign of love lost in relationship. You no longer have that "mushy" feeling for that person inside anymore. You have lost the sparkle in your eyes and feeling of warmth for the other person.

2. You are no longer worried about what the other is doing and do not miss them or think of them even if they are gone for a long time. You are not considerate of their feelings as much as you used to be like earlier when you used to put other people things before yours. You sort of become indifferent.

3. You were once excited to see them and anxiously waited to see them. But now you look for excuses to keep away from them. You are not in a rush to see them anymore. You rather wish they take longer to get home if you are married or in a living relationship. You keep a distance from them and try to meet new people or spend time in the company of your friends.

4. Marriage thrives on intimacy and closeness with one another and when love is lost physical or emotional intimacy would be gone too or at least reduced to a considerable extent. You do not enjoy the company of the other person any more. You also withdraw in general with regards to conversation and spending time together as a couple. Some times you may feel depressed or stress out. 

5. You don’t answer their calls and don’t call them often as earlier or send text messages to them. You look for excuses for not taking call or for cutting the call short.

6. There was a time you took delight in showing your love, acceptance and appreciation for your partner by giving gifts. You always remember days important to them but now you just don’t bother or remember. You no longer feel telling your partner that you love him or her.

7. You may also say hurtful things or pickup fights for even small things. You easily find fault with your partner and not willing to compromise anymore. You get defensive, selfish and egotistical.

当爱情在消逝...

当爱情即将消逝时,我们能做什么?

聊天的话语变得越来越少,有一句没一句的说着.

是我变了?你变了?还是世界变了?其实,除了气候之外谁都没变.

不管怎么样,距离都是会或多或少影响两个人.

所面对的事情不同,对爱情的态度自然也会不同.

心情真的很复杂.

Monday, October 4, 2010

女人应该活出精彩

女人不应仅仅属于家庭,她首先要属于自己,然后是家庭,是社会。
这样,女人的生活才是最完美的。

家庭绝不应该是一个女人的终点,
应当是女人的加油站。

什么也没有比一个女人关注自己的灵魂更为重要的事情。
只有灵魂的安宁、平和才能感受到幸福到来的滋味。
只有灵魂的充实和丰满才能发现生活的美丽和生命的宝贵。
关注灵魂应当是女人一生比关注容颜更为重要的事情。

女人啊,与其抱怨生活,不如自己先活出精彩来。

Saturday, October 2, 2010

女人要精致地活着

 
“人生最大的幸福,是发现自己爱的人正好也爱着自己。喜欢一个人,会卑微到尘埃里,然后开出花来”张爱玲道。

自古红颜多薄命。天若有情天亦老,更何况弱女子?思君让人老!今春,香肌瘦几分,带宽三寸。

纵观古今,女人总逃不过“情”字。无论伟大或卑微。女人是小鸟,永远逃不出男人编制的情网。任自己枯萎,凋谢,却换不回男人的一次回眸,一滴眼泪。

女人只是男人路上的驿站,男人一生要经过多少驿站,他们自己也不知道。总在不但地寻觅,新的驿站总在前方。像林徽因这么幸福的女人几乎史无前例。遇上了金岳霖,原为她苦守一生。还有徐志摩为她留下的千古绝唱:再别康桥!

张爱玲,一代才女,不顾政治和他有妻室,投入他的怀抱,为他提供才及财,最终被弃,孤寂地死去。这方面应学张幼仪,被抛弃时,不卑不亢,自强不息,虽没赢得故人的爱,但赢得了他的尊重。

女人应像她一样地精致地活着。

首先,注重自己的形象。不论美不美,要干净利索。一举手,一投足,要优雅得体。

有自己可受益一生的爱好,精神的琴棋书画;体力的,跳舞,乒乓等。可在无聊时,killtime!

有自己的为之奋斗的梦想!孜孜不倦,乐此不疲!偶尔有小小的成就让自己惊喜!无论他人如何认为你的梦想是多么的荒诞无稽,但它总是你平淡生活得精神支柱。

有闺中密友,抑郁时可窃窃私语,购物,咖啡,流泪,嬉笑,怒骂!

有自己的蓝颜知己,与爱情无关!与身体无关!鼓励你不但地进取,无聊时谈天说地。

有自己喜爱的职业,可养活自己,不能依赖你的男人。如果有一天他毅然离去,你的世界不至于暗无天日。

女人要爱惜自己的身体。男人无论咋伪装,最后露出是性的狰狞的面孔。女人不能靠下半身去拴住一个男人的心,需要的是智慧和才华。与其等着男人来爱自己,还不如提高自己,开辟自己的天地。好男人太少,是千百年淘不来的。其实幸福可能就在身边。

要有自己的孩子。未做母亲的女人不是一个完整的女人。为孩子付出的同时就是收获,耐心,爱心,奉献。

女人要精致地活着,为别人,更为自己!

女人要学会好好爱自己

爱情太过沉重`````

爱情太让人伤神````

学会轻松吧```学会好好爱自己```不管别人说什么```爱情并不可以让我屈服

学会开心吧```学会好好爱自己```不要让任何事扰乱美好的生命``学会珍惜自己```因为我知道这样才会减少自己的伤痛``

学会对一切无所谓````学会好好的爱自己```我要把青春和纯真撰在自己的手里```不要让它在伤痛中流逝`````

及其没有安全感的我``本以为找到了爱情就是找到了自己的归宿```一个自己在怕在累有个可以依靠与关怀的避所```或许我错了``我一直都是错的````我只是一直在幸福的边缘上徘徊`````爱情我成受不起```

难过的夜我抚摩着自己的伤痛`````自己是那么的凄凉与孤单````心已经死了在那年夏天我的纯真我的爱````现在我的爱对我来说只一种负累````我在疼痛的路口左右徘徊````

这么久我终于明白我一直在寻找自己的安全```渴望无尽的关怀与爱``可是或许我错了````这么多年我一直虔诚的寻找无尽的爱我成了它忠实的奴隶`````

什么都可以全力以赴```现在我知道惟独爱不能``````

世上没有什么东西是让你平白无辜得到的`````就连爱也需要你一点点经营````男人是多么贪婪的动物``他总是不断的要求从女人那里索取爱``` 关怀```忍让```为他提供一切他所需要的````女人到最后付出的越来越多```自己以为可以从中获取那么些许的信任与安全感``最后到无法抽身 ```如果我说女人成了寻找爱的奴隶,那么这么一来爱就让她死心踏地成为男人的奴隶```

现在得知如过自己不好好的爱自己````这世上还有谁会来爱呢````

最能给自己安全感的人就只有自己````不去理会那不重要的伤感`````对一切都无所谓````